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Personally I found my values changing a lot after I had kids. But I don’t feel like a different person, nor do I feel that either my pre-kid or post-kid self was more correct per se.

I feel more like my “true values” are unknowable, and my intuition over time gives me different clues as to what my true values are. Rational action is great but it does have the limit that I only know an approximation to my own values. Philosophy can help draw these out but it’s always incomplete.

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I know generational theories are not considered serious in intellectual circles, but I find them very useful in explaining how values change over time.

In your framework, I would fit them into the "context-dependent" slot, except the context is not a simple scalar, like wealth or age. The context is the relationship between a person's generation and the previous and next generations.

However you classify them, over time, the numbers in the previous generations will fall off, and the numbers in next generations will increase. So if you're trying to develop a plausible coherent framework to explain your motives, you'll have to change your framework to accomodate this reality.

A lot of your "preferences" may just be falsified preferences (ala Kuran) to fit in with your surroundings, and when the numbers of the olds and youngs start shifting, your falsified preferences set will abruptly change in the form of cascades. You may not even realize that they were falsified preferences to begin with, since prior to that point, the social drivers were so firm and obvious that you may never even have realized it that they were malleable.

People outside your generation can have an outsize impact as tie-breakers for deep value conflicts of your generation because they're not your direct rivals (people tend to resist value advocated by competitors). They can serve as "arbitrators" in the social competition of your generation, even if they're not directly involved. For example, consider if your generation has a deep value divide that you can't resolve. If this division happens when you're young, often there's a Cold Truce imposed by the elders (your spats are excluded from Serious Discourse). On the other hand, if this division happens when you're older, then eventually the youths will decide the matter, whether you like it or not.

This generational changeover is dynamic because (at least in our culture) kids are the people who are most empowered to rebel. Whether or not their decision makes sense, they'll do different stuff than the people immediately before then (even if its the same different stuff as the people 2 or 3 generations ago). So the context keeps changing and refreshing.

This doesn't mean that the youths are the only drivers of change. Each generation drives changes throughout their lifetime. They age into roles the previous generations once had, but they play those roles differently than them, and so the context keeps shifting. And all the preferences you thought you had that you don't really have a deep personal stake will have to keep shifting to keep up according to the prevailing Preference Falsifications regimes (aka Keeping up with the Times).

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