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Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life
Positive wisdom and helpful insights on how to be a successful person
Happiness and success are habits. So are failure and misery. But negative habits can be changed--and Psycho-Cybernetics shows you how!
This is your personal audio guide to the amazing power of Psycho-Cybernetics--a program based on one of the world s classic self-help books, a multimillion-copy bestseller proven effective by readers worldwide. Presenting positive attitude as a means for change, Maltz s teaching has the ring of common sense.
Psycho-Cybernetics-is the original text that defined the mind/body connection the concept that paved the way for most of today s personal empowerment programs. Turn crises into creative opportunities, dehypnotize yourself from false beliefs, and celebrate new freedom from fear and guilt.
Testimonials and stories are interspersed with advice from Maltz, as well as techniques for relaxation and visualization. Dr. Maxwell Maltz teaches you his techniques of emotional surgery --the path to a dynamic new self-image and self-esteem and to achieving the success and happiness you deserve!
Happiness and success are habits. So are failure and misery. But negative habits can be changed--and Psycho-Cybernetics shows you how!
This is your personal audio guide to the amazing power of Psycho-Cybernetics--a program based on one of the world s classic self-help books, a multimillion-copy bestseller proven effective by readers worldwide. Presenting positive attitude as a means for change, Maltz s teaching has the ring of common sense.
Psycho-Cybernetics-is the original text that defined the mind/body connection the concept that paved the way for most of today s personal empowerment programs. Turn crises into creative opportunities, dehypnotize yourself from false beliefs, and celebrate new freedom from fear and guilt.
Testimonials and stories are interspersed with advice from Maltz, as well as techniques for relaxation and visualization. Dr. Maxwell Maltz teaches you his techniques of emotional surgery --the path to a dynamic new self-image and self-esteem and to achieving the success and happiness you deserve!
288 pages, Mass Market Paperback
First published January 1, 1960
About the author
Maxwell Maltz
67 books305 followersMaxwell Maltz was an American cosmetic surgeon and author of Psycho-Cybernetics, which was a system of ideas that he claimed could improve one's self-image leading to a more successful and fulfilling life.
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December 4, 2013
This is a keeper. I can’t believe I never came across this before--he basically thought of everything I have thought before I did. The book is about how to cultivate a more productive mind; that your mental attitude is related to your success in a lot of ways. And I thought his insights were really practical.
Here are a few:
--About your success, “you must not wait to act until you have proof —you must act as if it’s already there and it will come through”
--Do everything you can to prepare, and then relax in the doing of it. The more you can detach yourself (and your self esteem) from the outcome, the better you will perform. Get out of your own way.
--“Live in daytight compartments”. The only time we have any power over is the present moment…don’t waste time worrying about the past or future; do the things you need to do right now to heal the past or prepare for the future.
--Happiness is a choice. Your circumstances may be difficult or discouraging…but your attitude can make those circumstances worse or better. You always have a choice about how you react.
--“be willing to make a few mistakes and suffer a little pain, to get what you want”. Bring courage to your life, do the hard thing, be vulnerable, and take a risk for something you really care about.
Here are a few:
--About your success, “you must not wait to act until you have proof —you must act as if it’s already there and it will come through”
--Do everything you can to prepare, and then relax in the doing of it. The more you can detach yourself (and your self esteem) from the outcome, the better you will perform. Get out of your own way.
--“Live in daytight compartments”. The only time we have any power over is the present moment…don’t waste time worrying about the past or future; do the things you need to do right now to heal the past or prepare for the future.
--Happiness is a choice. Your circumstances may be difficult or discouraging…but your attitude can make those circumstances worse or better. You always have a choice about how you react.
--“be willing to make a few mistakes and suffer a little pain, to get what you want”. Bring courage to your life, do the hard thing, be vulnerable, and take a risk for something you really care about.
August 24, 2009
Probably the most impactful book I've ever read. I read the 1960 edition, but it has been updated several times; however the underlying premise still holds true: "A human being always acts and feels and performs in accordance with what he imagines to be true about himself and his enviroment." Our nervous system reacts appropriately to what we think or imagine to be true. If we can change the vision of ourselves, others, and our environment, we can rise to success, and become better people.
I have applied this so many times in my life and know it to be a true principle. When we can see ourselves acting, feeling, or being as we want to be, the body responds accordingly. We really under-rate the power of the mind and the scripture, "Whatever a man thinketh, so is he." (Proverbs 23:7)
I have applied this so many times in my life and know it to be a true principle. When we can see ourselves acting, feeling, or being as we want to be, the body responds accordingly. We really under-rate the power of the mind and the scripture, "Whatever a man thinketh, so is he." (Proverbs 23:7)
February 3, 2024
I remember when my Grade Nine friend - David, a genius in physics - recommended this book to me, later, in 1976. We shared a two bedroom apartment together, along with his back-to-the-land girlfriend (later his wife) Diana, and David was doing grad work.
I was a nine-to-five office type, getting down to serious daily drudgery.
They were gone each weekend to Diana's cottage, so I would carry on with my own haphazard lifestyle then.
David saw I was disorganized. So much like him, but Diana was setting him straight. Now David wanted me to get my life together, with Maltz's book.
I tried, but never succeeded to clean up my act and my thinking.... Until I met my own wife. Turns out I had only needed a lady’s inspiration to think cybernetically!
That was in the next year, 1977. But 1976 proved an utter debacle...
***
I had heard in the spring of vitamin therapy for my bipolar condition, as well as Maltz’s medicine. My roomy David was the son of a decorated biochemist, and was big on Linus Pauling, so no wonder! Didn't work, though - in the middle of the summer I crashed and burned.
(You know, the anti-psychiatry movement in North America was then gaining momentum, and my confinement that year was So much like a sojourn at a country club. Quickly and clinically given a cybernetic release, I gradually badly imploded.)
Of course, by November the only possible remedy was heavy artillery, and I was duly given lights-out meds. Where is all this ugliness leading, you may ask?
Well, of course (if you believe in White Magic) into a serendipitous solution:
My Forever Wife!
Cause, brutally KO'ed and down for the count, my Darkest Hour then proved to be just a Herald of Dawn.
***
My dear wife then started to get me straight. With good loving and no-nonsense pep talks galore, in short order I converted to her native Catholicism.
Then, a Church wedding.
Suddenly my life was positive.
It was filled with sunlight.
Promotion rapidly followed promotion at work.
And now, having worked steadily for thirty years, I finally had a respectable pension...
And plenty for more books.
And, what of David and Diana?
After marriage, they settled in an community out west in Alberta -
And David became the Chairman of its university Physics department.
So we both made it in life, retiring in 2005 and around 2011 respectively...
For we had both successfully done our best thinking in a grimy box all that dreary younger time:
Psycho-Cybernetically!
I was a nine-to-five office type, getting down to serious daily drudgery.
They were gone each weekend to Diana's cottage, so I would carry on with my own haphazard lifestyle then.
David saw I was disorganized. So much like him, but Diana was setting him straight. Now David wanted me to get my life together, with Maltz's book.
I tried, but never succeeded to clean up my act and my thinking.... Until I met my own wife. Turns out I had only needed a lady’s inspiration to think cybernetically!
That was in the next year, 1977. But 1976 proved an utter debacle...
***
I had heard in the spring of vitamin therapy for my bipolar condition, as well as Maltz’s medicine. My roomy David was the son of a decorated biochemist, and was big on Linus Pauling, so no wonder! Didn't work, though - in the middle of the summer I crashed and burned.
(You know, the anti-psychiatry movement in North America was then gaining momentum, and my confinement that year was So much like a sojourn at a country club. Quickly and clinically given a cybernetic release, I gradually badly imploded.)
Of course, by November the only possible remedy was heavy artillery, and I was duly given lights-out meds. Where is all this ugliness leading, you may ask?
Well, of course (if you believe in White Magic) into a serendipitous solution:
My Forever Wife!
Cause, brutally KO'ed and down for the count, my Darkest Hour then proved to be just a Herald of Dawn.
***
My dear wife then started to get me straight. With good loving and no-nonsense pep talks galore, in short order I converted to her native Catholicism.
Then, a Church wedding.
Suddenly my life was positive.
It was filled with sunlight.
Promotion rapidly followed promotion at work.
And now, having worked steadily for thirty years, I finally had a respectable pension...
And plenty for more books.
And, what of David and Diana?
After marriage, they settled in an community out west in Alberta -
And David became the Chairman of its university Physics department.
So we both made it in life, retiring in 2005 and around 2011 respectively...
For we had both successfully done our best thinking in a grimy box all that dreary younger time:
Psycho-Cybernetically!
June 28, 2021
Psycho-Cybernetics. A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life, Maxwell Maltz
Psycho-Cybernetics is a self-help book written by Maxwell Maltz in 1960. Happiness and success are habits. So are failure and misery. But negative habits can be changed--and Psycho-Cybernetics shows you how!
تاریخ نخستین خوانش روز بیست و هفتم ماه ژوئن سال 2016میلادی
عنوان: سایکو - سایبرنتیکس، یا، معجزه تصویر ذهنی؛ نوشته ماکسول مالتز؛ ترجمه و تفسیر و تلخیص: ا.خواجه نوری؛ گردآورنده و تنظیم کننده لیدا مشفق؛ عنوان روی جلد: معجزه تصویر ذهنی، یا، راه میانبر خودشناسی و روانکاوی؛ بی جا، بی نا، 1360؛ در 55ص؛ موضوع روانشناسی از نویسندگان ایالات متجده آمریکا - سده 20م
عنوان: روانشناسی ارتباط و کنترل (سایکوسیبرنتیک)؛ نویسنده: ماکسول مالتز؛ مترجمها: جمال زرهساز، بابک شمشیری؛ تهران، چاپخش؛ 1372؛ در 203ص؛
عنوان: سایکوسیبرنتیک: درس زندگی؛ اثر ماکسول مالتز؛ ترجمه مهدی قراچهداغی؛ تهران، شباهنگ، سخن، 1373؛ در 196ص؛ چاپ دیگر تهران، اسرار دانش؛ 1380؛ در 250ص؛ شابک 9646719546؛ چاپ سوم 1387؛ چاپ دیگر تهران، شباهنگ، 1390؛ در 196ص؛ شابک 9789642732227؛
عنوان: سایبرنتیک روان: هدف، حرکت، بازخورد؛ ماکسول مالتز؛ ویراستار علمی دن کندی؛ با همکاری موسسه سایکو سایبرنتیک؛ مترجم حسن حقشناس، با همکاری سودابه ملکزاده؛ شیراز، ایرسا، 1386؛ در 304ص؛ شابک 9786009029808؛ چاپ دوم 1391؛ چاپ دیگر تهران، رون سنجی، 1397؛ در 6ص، و 304ص؛ شابک 9789647855259؛
عنوان: سایکوسایبرنتیک جدید: علم اصلی اصلاح خود و موفقیت که زندگی سی میلیون نفر را تغییر داده است؛ نویسنده ماکسول مالتز؛ ویرایش و به روز شده توسط اس کندی و بنیاد سایکوسایبرنتیک، ترجمه فرهاد توحیدی؛ ارومیه، فرهاد توحیدی؛ 1393؛ در 7ص، و 238ص؛ شابک 9786000412616؛
فهرست کتاب ترجمه جناب «فرهاد توحیدی»:؛
فصل یک: «تصور از خود: کلید شما برای زندگی بدون مرز»؛
فصل دو: «چگونه مکانیسم موفقیت خودکار درونتان را بیدار میکند»؛
فصل سه: «تخیل استارت مکانیسم موفقیت خودکار شما»؛
فصل چهار: «چگونه خود را از باورهای غلط خارج کنید»؛
فصل پنج: «چگونه در رابطه با قدرت تفکر منطقی پیشرفت کنیم»؛
فصل شش: «چگونه ریلکس شویم و اجازه دهیم مکانیسم موفقیت خودکار برایمان کار کند»؛
فصل هفت: «میتوانید عادت خوشبختی را به دست آورید»؛
فصل هشت: «اجزای شخصیت نوع موفق و چگونگی حصول به آنها»؛
فصل نه: «چگونه از فعالسازی تصادفی مکانیسم شکست خودکارتان جلوگیری کنید»؛
فصل ده: «چگونه زخمهای احساسی را برطرف کنیم و به خود یک ترمیم چهره انسانی بدهیم»؛
فصل یازده: «چگونه شخصیت واقعی خود را آزاد کنید»؛
فصل دوازده: «آرامبخشهایی خودی ای که آرامش ذهن میآورند»؛
فصل سیزده: «چگونه یک بحران را به یک فرصت اخلاقی تبدیل کنیم»؛
فصل چهارده: «چگونه آن حس پیروزی را به دست آورده و حفط کنیم»؛
فصل پانزده: «سالهای بیشتر زندگی و زندگی بیشتر در سالهای شما»؛
فصل شانزده: «داستانهای واقعی زندگیهایی که با استفاده از سایکو سایبرنتیک عوض شده اند»؛
و «واژگان»؛
تاریخ بهنگام رسانی 06/04/1400هجری خورشیدی؛ ا. شربیانی
Psycho-Cybernetics is a self-help book written by Maxwell Maltz in 1960. Happiness and success are habits. So are failure and misery. But negative habits can be changed--and Psycho-Cybernetics shows you how!
تاریخ نخستین خوانش روز بیست و هفتم ماه ژوئن سال 2016میلادی
عنوان: سایکو - سایبرنتیکس، یا، معجزه تصویر ذهنی؛ نوشته ماکسول مالتز؛ ترجمه و تفسیر و تلخیص: ا.خواجه نوری؛ گردآورنده و تنظیم کننده لیدا مشفق؛ عنوان روی جلد: معجزه تصویر ذهنی، یا، راه میانبر خودشناسی و روانکاوی؛ بی جا، بی نا، 1360؛ در 55ص؛ موضوع روانشناسی از نویسندگان ایالات متجده آمریکا - سده 20م
عنوان: روانشناسی ارتباط و کنترل (سایکوسیبرنتیک)؛ نویسنده: ماکسول مالتز؛ مترجمها: جمال زرهساز، بابک شمشیری؛ تهران، چاپخش؛ 1372؛ در 203ص؛
عنوان: سایکوسیبرنتیک: درس زندگی؛ اثر ماکسول مالتز؛ ترجمه مهدی قراچهداغی؛ تهران، شباهنگ، سخن، 1373؛ در 196ص؛ چاپ دیگر تهران، اسرار دانش؛ 1380؛ در 250ص؛ شابک 9646719546؛ چاپ سوم 1387؛ چاپ دیگر تهران، شباهنگ، 1390؛ در 196ص؛ شابک 9789642732227؛
عنوان: سایبرنتیک روان: هدف، حرکت، بازخورد؛ ماکسول مالتز؛ ویراستار علمی دن کندی؛ با همکاری موسسه سایکو سایبرنتیک؛ مترجم حسن حقشناس، با همکاری سودابه ملکزاده؛ شیراز، ایرسا، 1386؛ در 304ص؛ شابک 9786009029808؛ چاپ دوم 1391؛ چاپ دیگر تهران، رون سنجی، 1397؛ در 6ص، و 304ص؛ شابک 9789647855259؛
عنوان: سایکوسایبرنتیک جدید: علم اصلی اصلاح خود و موفقیت که زندگی سی میلیون نفر را تغییر داده است؛ نویسنده ماکسول مالتز؛ ویرایش و به روز شده توسط اس کندی و بنیاد سایکوسایبرنتیک، ترجمه فرهاد توحیدی؛ ارومیه، فرهاد توحیدی؛ 1393؛ در 7ص، و 238ص؛ شابک 9786000412616؛
فهرست کتاب ترجمه جناب «فرهاد توحیدی»:؛
فصل یک: «تصور از خود: کلید شما برای زندگی بدون مرز»؛
فصل دو: «چگونه مکانیسم موفقیت خودکار درونتان را بیدار میکند»؛
فصل سه: «تخیل استارت مکانیسم موفقیت خودکار شما»؛
فصل چهار: «چگونه خود را از باورهای غلط خارج کنید»؛
فصل پنج: «چگونه در رابطه با قدرت تفکر منطقی پیشرفت کنیم»؛
فصل شش: «چگونه ریلکس شویم و اجازه دهیم مکانیسم موفقیت خودکار برایمان کار کند»؛
فصل هفت: «میتوانید عادت خوشبختی را به دست آورید»؛
فصل هشت: «اجزای شخصیت نوع موفق و چگونگی حصول به آنها»؛
فصل نه: «چگونه از فعالسازی تصادفی مکانیسم شکست خودکارتان جلوگیری کنید»؛
فصل ده: «چگونه زخمهای احساسی را برطرف کنیم و به خود یک ترمیم چهره انسانی بدهیم»؛
فصل یازده: «چگونه شخصیت واقعی خود را آزاد کنید»؛
فصل دوازده: «آرامبخشهایی خودی ای که آرامش ذهن میآورند»؛
فصل سیزده: «چگونه یک بحران را به یک فرصت اخلاقی تبدیل کنیم»؛
فصل چهارده: «چگونه آن حس پیروزی را به دست آورده و حفط کنیم»؛
فصل پانزده: «سالهای بیشتر زندگی و زندگی بیشتر در سالهای شما»؛
فصل شانزده: «داستانهای واقعی زندگیهایی که با استفاده از سایکو سایبرنتیک عوض شده اند»؛
و «واژگان»؛
تاریخ بهنگام رسانی 06/04/1400هجری خورشیدی؛ ا. شربیانی
August 26, 2018
Psycho-Cybernetics Review
1. First the author makes a point of how your self-perception has significant impact on goal attainment. The image of being for example "stupid at math" will manifest to have itself fulfilled.
2. Success mechanisms are automatic processes that steer yourself towards a set state. Comparison: A self-steering missile autocorrects itself until it hits the goal.
3. Setting a state is best achieved by visualizing vividly the desired state of being and imagining yourself to already be there.
Practice: "Hold a picture of yourself long enough and steadily enough in your minds eye and you will be drawn toward it." - Dr. Harry Emerson Fosdick
Imagine yourself acting in your "goal personality" for 30 min a day.
4. False beliefs - dehypnotize yourself by using relaxation. Relaxation image: Your body is made of concrete and very heavy.
5. Ideas are changed not by will but by other ideas. For each belief (esp. Where you say 'I can't do this') ask yourself: Is there a rational reason for such a belief? Could I be wrong in this belief? Would I come to the same conclusion about some person in a similar situation? Why should I continue to act and feel as if this were true of there's no good reason to believe it?
"If you can interest the neighbor, you can interest all neighbors, or the world, and not be frozen by magnitude" - Daniel W. Josselyn
Concious rational thought selects the goal. It is not responsible for results. Do the work, act upon the best assumptions available, and leave the results to take care of themselves.
6. Let the success mechanism work for you - have a burning desire to solve your problem and gather all the information possible, then let go.
- Do your worrying before you place your bet, not after the (roulette) wheel start turning.
- Consciously respond to the current moment - > react to what is happening now, preparing is fine; live as best you can today; Stop - look - and listen; Don't fight strawmen out of the past
- Do one thing at a time
- Sleep on it
- Relax while you work
7. Acquire the habit of happiness. We have a wrong view of happiness: be successful/healthy, then you can be happy. Rather: be happy, then you can be successful/healthy.
Happiness is not a "pay off" for being unselfish: if we are rewarded for being unselfish, you can assume that more self-abnegation will lead to more happiness. This is irrational, saying that less happiness means more happiness.
Metaphor: if outward events change how you feel it is like the master of ceremony of a TV show steers the audience to cheer or to say 'awww'.
8. Success type personalities have these traits:
- Sense of direction
- Understanding
- Courage
- Charity
- Esteem
- Self-confidence
- Self-acceptance
9. Failure mechanism - noticing and understanding negative emotions can lead to course corrections. Using negative emotions as an immediate trigger to for example think positive thoughts.
Frustration comes from the childish belief that expressing our dissatisfaction will solve problems like it did when we were young and our parents solved problems for us.
10. Removing emotional scars - first, protect yourself from future emotional hurts by being too big to feel threatened, having a self reliant and responsible attitude and then relaxing away emotional hurt. To remove old emotional scars you want to use real (not forced) forgiveness. Forgive yourself as you would others.
Don't attach your self image to a failure: Say "I fell" instead of "I am a faller".
11. Unlocking personality - Poor personality and inhibited personality are the same thing. Negative feedback is there to modify response not to stop it altogether. Quote: "Self-consciousness is really others-consciousness"
Example: Stage fright is the fear that we will be punished for speaking up, expressing our opinion, presuming to be someone, or showing off - things most of us learned were wrong and punishable as children. Stage fright illustrates how universal is the suppression and inhibition of self-expression.
Exercises:
- don't worry what you're doing to say
- don't plan, but have a goal and act
- stop criticizing yourself
- speak louder than usual
- let people know when you like them
12. Tranquilizers - Over-response is a vast habit which can be cured. Example: You can choose to answer the phone.
If at first you cannot ignore the stimulus, delay your response.
Build yourself a quiet room in your mind.
Carry-over emotions can be a killing factor since party of an old problem carry through to a new one and can lead to wrong results.
13. Turn crises into creative opportunities - performing well in a crisis requires:
- practicing without pressure
- reacting to crises aggressively instead of defensively
- putting cruises into perspective
14. That winning feeling - you supply the goal (the what) and your automatic mechanism supplies the means whereby (the how). The possibility of the goal must be seen so clearly that it could be real. So real that the same feelings are evoked.
15. More life in your years - thoughts can harm or benefit your bodily functions. 6+1 basic needs:
Need for...
- love
- security
- creative expression
- recognition
- new experiences
- self-esteem
- more life
Create a need for more life by developing a nostalgia for the future. Quote: "We age, not by years, but by events and our emotional reactions to them."
Learning ability is about the same at age 17 and 70.
Don't conserve energy, spend it gradually
1. First the author makes a point of how your self-perception has significant impact on goal attainment. The image of being for example "stupid at math" will manifest to have itself fulfilled.
2. Success mechanisms are automatic processes that steer yourself towards a set state. Comparison: A self-steering missile autocorrects itself until it hits the goal.
3. Setting a state is best achieved by visualizing vividly the desired state of being and imagining yourself to already be there.
Practice: "Hold a picture of yourself long enough and steadily enough in your minds eye and you will be drawn toward it." - Dr. Harry Emerson Fosdick
Imagine yourself acting in your "goal personality" for 30 min a day.
4. False beliefs - dehypnotize yourself by using relaxation. Relaxation image: Your body is made of concrete and very heavy.
5. Ideas are changed not by will but by other ideas. For each belief (esp. Where you say 'I can't do this') ask yourself: Is there a rational reason for such a belief? Could I be wrong in this belief? Would I come to the same conclusion about some person in a similar situation? Why should I continue to act and feel as if this were true of there's no good reason to believe it?
"If you can interest the neighbor, you can interest all neighbors, or the world, and not be frozen by magnitude" - Daniel W. Josselyn
Concious rational thought selects the goal. It is not responsible for results. Do the work, act upon the best assumptions available, and leave the results to take care of themselves.
6. Let the success mechanism work for you - have a burning desire to solve your problem and gather all the information possible, then let go.
- Do your worrying before you place your bet, not after the (roulette) wheel start turning.
- Consciously respond to the current moment - > react to what is happening now, preparing is fine; live as best you can today; Stop - look - and listen; Don't fight strawmen out of the past
- Do one thing at a time
- Sleep on it
- Relax while you work
7. Acquire the habit of happiness. We have a wrong view of happiness: be successful/healthy, then you can be happy. Rather: be happy, then you can be successful/healthy.
Happiness is not a "pay off" for being unselfish: if we are rewarded for being unselfish, you can assume that more self-abnegation will lead to more happiness. This is irrational, saying that less happiness means more happiness.
Metaphor: if outward events change how you feel it is like the master of ceremony of a TV show steers the audience to cheer or to say 'awww'.
8. Success type personalities have these traits:
- Sense of direction
- Understanding
- Courage
- Charity
- Esteem
- Self-confidence
- Self-acceptance
9. Failure mechanism - noticing and understanding negative emotions can lead to course corrections. Using negative emotions as an immediate trigger to for example think positive thoughts.
Frustration comes from the childish belief that expressing our dissatisfaction will solve problems like it did when we were young and our parents solved problems for us.
10. Removing emotional scars - first, protect yourself from future emotional hurts by being too big to feel threatened, having a self reliant and responsible attitude and then relaxing away emotional hurt. To remove old emotional scars you want to use real (not forced) forgiveness. Forgive yourself as you would others.
Don't attach your self image to a failure: Say "I fell" instead of "I am a faller".
11. Unlocking personality - Poor personality and inhibited personality are the same thing. Negative feedback is there to modify response not to stop it altogether. Quote: "Self-consciousness is really others-consciousness"
Example: Stage fright is the fear that we will be punished for speaking up, expressing our opinion, presuming to be someone, or showing off - things most of us learned were wrong and punishable as children. Stage fright illustrates how universal is the suppression and inhibition of self-expression.
Exercises:
- don't worry what you're doing to say
- don't plan, but have a goal and act
- stop criticizing yourself
- speak louder than usual
- let people know when you like them
12. Tranquilizers - Over-response is a vast habit which can be cured. Example: You can choose to answer the phone.
If at first you cannot ignore the stimulus, delay your response.
Build yourself a quiet room in your mind.
Carry-over emotions can be a killing factor since party of an old problem carry through to a new one and can lead to wrong results.
13. Turn crises into creative opportunities - performing well in a crisis requires:
- practicing without pressure
- reacting to crises aggressively instead of defensively
- putting cruises into perspective
14. That winning feeling - you supply the goal (the what) and your automatic mechanism supplies the means whereby (the how). The possibility of the goal must be seen so clearly that it could be real. So real that the same feelings are evoked.
15. More life in your years - thoughts can harm or benefit your bodily functions. 6+1 basic needs:
Need for...
- love
- security
- creative expression
- recognition
- new experiences
- self-esteem
- more life
Create a need for more life by developing a nostalgia for the future. Quote: "We age, not by years, but by events and our emotional reactions to them."
Learning ability is about the same at age 17 and 70.
Don't conserve energy, spend it gradually
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October 17, 2018
دوستانِ گرانقدر، از آنجا که این کتاب به نوعی تخصصی به شمار می آید، بنابراین تصمیم گرفتم ریویوِ کاملی در موردِ آن بنویسم تا چنانچه حوصلهٔ خواندنِ این کتاب را نداشته و یا شرایطِ مطالعه در موردِ این موضوع برایتان فراهم نباشد، اطلاعاتِ لازم و مفیدی را با خواندنِ این ریویو به دست بیاورید... این کتاب در ایران با ترجمهٔ قراچه داغی موجود است و البته ترجمه ای قدیمی تر نیز از این کتاب انجام گرفته که مترجمِ آن زنده یاد ابراهیم خواجه نوری بوده است، که احتمالاً این ترجمه در ایران ممکن است به سختی پیدا شود
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عزیزانم، <ماکسول مالتز> در این کتاب، اهمیتِ "تصویرِ ذهنی از خود" را، در چگونگیِ زندگیِ انسانها روشن ساخته است.. او باور دارد که تمامِ احساسات و رفتارها و حتی توانایی هایِ ما، بر اساسِ تصویرِ ذهنی از خود، شکل میگیرد و لازم است که انسان، تصویرِ واقعی و شایسته ای از خویش داشته باشد.... او روشن میسازد که درونِ هر موجودی یک مکانیزمِ خلاق وجود دارد که او را در جهتِ هدفهایِ جهان، راهنمایی میکند و این مکانیزمِ خلاق، به نوعی مکانیزمی هدف جو میباشد
انسان با داشتنِ هدفهایِ مشخص، میتواند خود به خود این مکانیزمِ خلاق را به سویِ اهدافِ برتر در این جهان، هدایت کند.... زمانی که هدف در ذهنِ انسان شکل میگیرد و مشخص میشود، مکانیزمِ خلاق در انسان، مسئولیت را بر عهده خواهد گرفت و ممکن است بهتر از نیرویِ اراده، انسان را به مقصودِ موردِ نظر برساند
با تمرین میتوان یک تصویرِ ذهنیِ مناسب از خود ایجاد نمود... انسان میتواند به کمکِ نوآموختگی، عادات و باورهایِ مناسبی در خود به وجود آورد که بدونِ شک این باورها باید در مسیرِ خردگرایی و دانشِ انسانی بوده و از خرافات و موهومات خالی باشد
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تصویرِ ذهنی از خود، به صورتِ ناخودآگاه از تجربه هایِ گذشته، موقعیتها و شکستهایِ شخصی، به وجود می آید
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پندار، گفتار، کردار، احساسات و توانایی هایِ انسان، بر اساسِ تصویرِ ذهنی، شکل میگیرد
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تصویرِ ذهنی که از خود میسازید، قابلِ تغییر میباشد و با تغییرِ آن میتوانید، زندگیِ خویش را تغییر دهید
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تصویرِ ذهنیِ خوب و درست از خویش، بسیار اهمیت دارد... باید نقاطِ ضعف و قوتِ خود را شناخته و نسبت به هر دوِ آنها، با خود صادق باشید
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هدفِ مکانیزمِ خلاق، دستیابی به تصاویرِ ذهنی میباشد که با استفاده از تخیل ایجاد میشود... مهمترین هدفِ تصویرِ ذهنی، دستیابی به تصویرِ ذهنی از خودِ انسان میباشد
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مکانیزمِ خلاقِ شما، بر اساسِ اطلاعات و داده هایی کار میکند که شما در اختیارش میگذارید
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دستگاهِ عصبیِ شما، تجربهٔ خیالی و مجازی را از تجربهٔ واقعی نمیتواند تشخیص دهد و در هر دو مورد، واکنش نشان میدهد.. مثلاً زمانی که با یک خرسِ وحشی برخورد میکنید و همچنین زمانی که با هنرپیشه ای برخورد میکنید که لباسِ خرس به تن کرده است و شما تصور میکنید که او یک خرسِ واقعی میباشد، به سرعت از خود واکنشِ ترس و وحشت نشان خواهید داد.. بنابراین اگر شما اندیشه و تصاویرِ ذهنیِ غیرواقعی از خویش داشته باشید، واکنشِ شما به همان اندازه نیز نامناسب خواهد بود.... این موضوع در هیپنوتیزم نیز دیده میشود، اگر به شخصِ هیپنوتیزم شده بگوییم که در قطبِ شمال است، او احساسِ سرما میکند و میلرزد، با آنکه در حقیقت در جایِ گرمی قرار گرفته باشد
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انسان دارایِ قوهٔ تخیلِ خلاق میباشد که با آن میتواند مکانیزمِ موفقیتِ خویش را هدایت کند....قوهٔ تخیل، بزرگترین محکِ فعالیتِ انسان و منبعِ پیشرفتِ او به شمار می آید... با از بین بردنِ این استعداد، انسان نیز هم ردیفِ حیوانات قرار میگیرد
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وظیفهٔ مکانیزمِ خلاق و خودکار در وجودِ شما این است که چنانچه شما هدفی را مشخص نمایید، وسیلهٔ رسیدن به آن هدف را برایِ شما پیدا خواهد کرد... شما به هدفِ پایانی بیاندیشید، وسیلهٔ رسیدن به آن را مکانیزمِ خودکار، فراهم میسازد
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چنانچه شما در تصورتان خود را به صورتی ببینید که میخواهید باشید، درست در آن زمان است که موفق خواهید شد... این بهترین وسیلهٔ تغییر دادنِ خویش است
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انسان زمانی از سردرگمی، نگرانی و تشویش رها میشود، که خود را انسانی متمایز و متفاوت از دیگران به حساب آورد.. یعنی نه خود را برتر از کسی بداند و نه کوچک و حقیرتر از کسی... انسان باید ذهنِ خویش را از موهومات و باورهایِ اشتباه و نابخردانهٔ دینی و مذهبی خالی کرده و وجودِ حقیقی و راستینِ خویش را بشناسد
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مکانیزمِ خودکار و ضمیرِ ناآگاه، با توجه به اندیشه و افکارِ آگاهِ شما کار میکند. بنابراین موهومات و باورهایِ اشتباهِ دینی و خرافات را از ذهنِ خویش پاک کنید و اندیشه هایِ خردمندانه و منطقی را در مغزِ خود به کار بیاورید... زمانی که به سویِ خردگرایی و باورهایِ درست و منطقی گام برمیدارید، باورهایِ اشتباه و غیرِ منطقی و موهومات، خود به خود در وجودتان از بین میرود
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وظیفهٔ اندیشهٔ آگاه این است که دربارهٔ خواسته هایِ شما تصمیم بگیرد و اهدافِ موردِ نظر را برایتان مشخص کند... پس رویِ این اهداف تمرکز کنید.. مهم چیزی است که میخواهید، نه آنچه که نمیخواهید
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امیدوارم این ریویو برایِ شما دوستانِ خردگرا، مفید بوده باشه
<پیروز باشید و ایرانی>
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عزیزانم، <ماکسول مالتز> در این کتاب، اهمیتِ "تصویرِ ذهنی از خود" را، در چگونگیِ زندگیِ انسانها روشن ساخته است.. او باور دارد که تمامِ احساسات و رفتارها و حتی توانایی هایِ ما، بر اساسِ تصویرِ ذهنی از خود، شکل میگیرد و لازم است که انسان، تصویرِ واقعی و شایسته ای از خویش داشته باشد.... او روشن میسازد که درونِ هر موجودی یک مکانیزمِ خلاق وجود دارد که او را در جهتِ هدفهایِ جهان، راهنمایی میکند و این مکانیزمِ خلاق، به نوعی مکانیزمی هدف جو میباشد
انسان با داشتنِ هدفهایِ مشخص، میتواند خود به خود این مکانیزمِ خلاق را به سویِ اهدافِ برتر در این جهان، هدایت کند.... زمانی که هدف در ذهنِ انسان شکل میگیرد و مشخص میشود، مکانیزمِ خلاق در انسان، مسئولیت را بر عهده خواهد گرفت و ممکن است بهتر از نیرویِ اراده، انسان را به مقصودِ موردِ نظر برساند
با تمرین میتوان یک تصویرِ ذهنیِ مناسب از خود ایجاد نمود... انسان میتواند به کمکِ نوآموختگی، عادات و باورهایِ مناسبی در خود به وجود آورد که بدونِ شک این باورها باید در مسیرِ خردگرایی و دانشِ انسانی بوده و از خرافات و موهومات خالی باشد
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تصویرِ ذهنی از خود، به صورتِ ناخودآگاه از تجربه هایِ گذشته، موقعیتها و شکستهایِ شخصی، به وجود می آید
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پندار، گفتار، کردار، احساسات و توانایی هایِ انسان، بر اساسِ تصویرِ ذهنی، شکل میگیرد
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تصویرِ ذهنی که از خود میسازید، قابلِ تغییر میباشد و با تغییرِ آن میتوانید، زندگیِ خویش را تغییر دهید
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تصویرِ ذهنیِ خوب و درست از خویش، بسیار اهمیت دارد... باید نقاطِ ضعف و قوتِ خود را شناخته و نسبت به هر دوِ آنها، با خود صادق باشید
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هدفِ مکانیزمِ خلاق، دستیابی به تصاویرِ ذهنی میباشد که با استفاده از تخیل ایجاد میشود... مهمترین هدفِ تصویرِ ذهنی، دستیابی به تصویرِ ذهنی از خودِ انسان میباشد
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مکانیزمِ خلاقِ شما، بر اساسِ اطلاعات و داده هایی کار میکند که شما در اختیارش میگذارید
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دستگاهِ عصبیِ شما، تجربهٔ خیالی و مجازی را از تجربهٔ واقعی نمیتواند تشخیص دهد و در هر دو مورد، واکنش نشان میدهد.. مثلاً زمانی که با یک خرسِ وحشی برخورد میکنید و همچنین زمانی که با هنرپیشه ای برخورد میکنید که لباسِ خرس به تن کرده است و شما تصور میکنید که او یک خرسِ واقعی میباشد، به سرعت از خود واکنشِ ترس و وحشت نشان خواهید داد.. بنابراین اگر شما اندیشه و تصاویرِ ذهنیِ غیرواقعی از خویش داشته باشید، واکنشِ شما به همان اندازه نیز نامناسب خواهد بود.... این موضوع در هیپنوتیزم نیز دیده میشود، اگر به شخصِ هیپنوتیزم شده بگوییم که در قطبِ شمال است، او احساسِ سرما میکند و میلرزد، با آنکه در حقیقت در جایِ گرمی قرار گرفته باشد
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انسان دارایِ قوهٔ تخیلِ خلاق میباشد که با آن میتواند مکانیزمِ موفقیتِ خویش را هدایت کند....قوهٔ تخیل، بزرگترین محکِ فعالیتِ انسان و منبعِ پیشرفتِ او به شمار می آید... با از بین بردنِ این استعداد، انسان نیز هم ردیفِ حیوانات قرار میگیرد
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وظیفهٔ مکانیزمِ خلاق و خودکار در وجودِ شما این است که چنانچه شما هدفی را مشخص نمایید، وسیلهٔ رسیدن به آن هدف را برایِ شما پیدا خواهد کرد... شما به هدفِ پایانی بیاندیشید، وسیلهٔ رسیدن به آن را مکانیزمِ خودکار، فراهم میسازد
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چنانچه شما در تصورتان خود را به صورتی ببینید که میخواهید باشید، درست در آن زمان است که موفق خواهید شد... این بهترین وسیلهٔ تغییر دادنِ خویش است
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انسان زمانی از سردرگمی، نگرانی و تشویش رها میشود، که خود را انسانی متمایز و متفاوت از دیگران به حساب آورد.. یعنی نه خود را برتر از کسی بداند و نه کوچک و حقیرتر از کسی... انسان باید ذهنِ خویش را از موهومات و باورهایِ اشتباه و نابخردانهٔ دینی و مذهبی خالی کرده و وجودِ حقیقی و راستینِ خویش را بشناسد
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مکانیزمِ خودکار و ضمیرِ ناآگاه، با توجه به اندیشه و افکارِ آگاهِ شما کار میکند. بنابراین موهومات و باورهایِ اشتباهِ دینی و خرافات را از ذهنِ خویش پاک کنید و اندیشه هایِ خردمندانه و منطقی را در مغزِ خود به کار بیاورید... زمانی که به سویِ خردگرایی و باورهایِ درست و منطقی گام برمیدارید، باورهایِ اشتباه و غیرِ منطقی و موهومات، خود به خود در وجودتان از بین میرود
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وظیفهٔ اندیشهٔ آگاه این است که دربارهٔ خواسته هایِ شما تصمیم بگیرد و اهدافِ موردِ نظر را برایتان مشخص کند... پس رویِ این اهداف تمرکز کنید.. مهم چیزی است که میخواهید، نه آنچه که نمیخواهید
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امیدوارم این ریویو برایِ شما دوستانِ خردگرا، مفید بوده باشه
<پیروز باشید و ایرانی>
November 28, 2012
Loy Machedo’s Book Review – Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life by Maxwell Maltz
Tell me this.
What were you doing in the year 1975?
Or better say, what were you doing in the year 1960?
Sounds too early?
Well then, would you believe that the author of this book died in the year 1975?
Or would it be more shocking to know that the book carries the copyright date of 1960?
May be that is why the 1st impression of the book is pretty bad. In fact, I would say it is downright pathetic.
The book carries the typical sales pitch employed in the early era of Self-Improvement Gurus (In the Introduction the typical phrases like “In this book you will find 8 secrets to this and 6 steps to that and 14 techniques to something else”). And that was where I got put off.
I said to myself - Not another ‘This-Is-The-Secret-To-Success’ book.
I was about to dismiss the book altogether.
And it was then something strange happened.
I slowly found myself attracted to the content.
Was it because the author was sharing something new?
No.
Absolutely not.
In fact, most of the techniques stated here were employed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder giving it the NLP title and then making it commercially viable to the world via Tony Robbins.
So what was it?
I suppose, it was the purity of the content and the simplicity of what was stated.
Let me put it into perspective.
The first surprising bit was the authors credentials.
The author didn’t have any basic qualification in psychology nor was one of those high-powered Ph.D title holders (and yes, thankfully he wasn’t a Sales Pitch Man). He was a Plastic Surgeon. And all these formulas that he compiled and condensed were from raw clinical observations and experiences. Where today – after nearly half a century, Pathetic, Prophetic and Pot-headed Unprofessional Quacks give metaphysical babble with some motivational flavor added with some hardly understood and unexplained Scientific theories of Quantum Physics to sell their repackaged products and services (especially add-ons) – Maltz does not do use such techniques. He is simply honest. And the premise is simple.
According to the Author, the human organism, like a computer, is capable of miraculous feats. You just have to program it correctly. This is done on a mental level by regulating thoughts and the stimuli we expose ourselves to. Couple this with powerful visualization and our mind, like an unstoppable servo-mechanism, propels us to success. Many other persons have also written about this such as James Allen in "As a Man Thinketh". Maltz compares the methodology of achieving a desired improvement in one's self image with that used in the design of modern physical automatic control systems (he uses the term "Cybernetics" to describe the servomechanism systems of his day, such as those used in military fire control systems).
Almost all the methods stated in the book are mind-based i.e. imaginative and visual in nature with most of the techniques resting in the range of changing ones image mentally to imagining how one should act. And finally, when the whole thing is compiled together, this is more like a definitive guide with unequivocal ideas that help you deal with the core issues and behavior patterns of human actions and results.
Moment of Truth
I found this book a valuable resource and for someone like me who has read quite a lot of book related to Visualization, Success, NLP, Coaching, and the Secrets to whatever, I found this book to be worth its money.
Overall Rating
9 out of 10
Loy Machedo
Loymachedo.com | loymachedo.tv
Tell me this.
What were you doing in the year 1975?
Or better say, what were you doing in the year 1960?
Sounds too early?
Well then, would you believe that the author of this book died in the year 1975?
Or would it be more shocking to know that the book carries the copyright date of 1960?
May be that is why the 1st impression of the book is pretty bad. In fact, I would say it is downright pathetic.
The book carries the typical sales pitch employed in the early era of Self-Improvement Gurus (In the Introduction the typical phrases like “In this book you will find 8 secrets to this and 6 steps to that and 14 techniques to something else”). And that was where I got put off.
I said to myself - Not another ‘This-Is-The-Secret-To-Success’ book.
I was about to dismiss the book altogether.
And it was then something strange happened.
I slowly found myself attracted to the content.
Was it because the author was sharing something new?
No.
Absolutely not.
In fact, most of the techniques stated here were employed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder giving it the NLP title and then making it commercially viable to the world via Tony Robbins.
So what was it?
I suppose, it was the purity of the content and the simplicity of what was stated.
Let me put it into perspective.
The first surprising bit was the authors credentials.
The author didn’t have any basic qualification in psychology nor was one of those high-powered Ph.D title holders (and yes, thankfully he wasn’t a Sales Pitch Man). He was a Plastic Surgeon. And all these formulas that he compiled and condensed were from raw clinical observations and experiences. Where today – after nearly half a century, Pathetic, Prophetic and Pot-headed Unprofessional Quacks give metaphysical babble with some motivational flavor added with some hardly understood and unexplained Scientific theories of Quantum Physics to sell their repackaged products and services (especially add-ons) – Maltz does not do use such techniques. He is simply honest. And the premise is simple.
According to the Author, the human organism, like a computer, is capable of miraculous feats. You just have to program it correctly. This is done on a mental level by regulating thoughts and the stimuli we expose ourselves to. Couple this with powerful visualization and our mind, like an unstoppable servo-mechanism, propels us to success. Many other persons have also written about this such as James Allen in "As a Man Thinketh". Maltz compares the methodology of achieving a desired improvement in one's self image with that used in the design of modern physical automatic control systems (he uses the term "Cybernetics" to describe the servomechanism systems of his day, such as those used in military fire control systems).
Almost all the methods stated in the book are mind-based i.e. imaginative and visual in nature with most of the techniques resting in the range of changing ones image mentally to imagining how one should act. And finally, when the whole thing is compiled together, this is more like a definitive guide with unequivocal ideas that help you deal with the core issues and behavior patterns of human actions and results.
Moment of Truth
I found this book a valuable resource and for someone like me who has read quite a lot of book related to Visualization, Success, NLP, Coaching, and the Secrets to whatever, I found this book to be worth its money.
Overall Rating
9 out of 10
Loy Machedo
Loymachedo.com | loymachedo.tv
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June 14, 2017[holding back a rating until I finish the 21 day period of practical exercises]
For those who are curious here are the Practical Exercises
[1] Read chapter 2 three times per week or until memorised (effectively understand the Cybernetics part of Pyscho-Cybernetics. p.30
[2] Spend 30 minutes a day visualising yourself being successful and acting and reacting appropriately. p.51
[3] Spend 30 minutes a day relaxing to the following mental images:
a). Imagining oneself having extremely heavy limbs as though they were made of concrete sinking into a mattress
b). Imagining oneself as a marionette puppet but with all the various connecting strings as being limp and loose.
c). Imagining oneself as being composed of giant balloons and whilst lying down slowly letting them deflate.
d). A relaxing experience from your past.
p.67
[4] Several times a day remember a period of great relaxation and mentally repeat to yourself "I am relaxed". p.104
[5] Form the habit of being goal oriented and react positively aggressively to threats and challenges p.115
[6] Make the following affirmations every morning:
I. I am beginning the day in a new and better way.
II. I will be as cheerful as possible.
III. I am going to be a little less critical and a little more tolerant of other people, their faults, failings and mistakes. I will place the best possible interpretation on their actions.
IV. Insofar as possible, I am going to act as though successes are inevitable, and I already am the personality I want to be. I will practice acting like and feeling like this new personality.
V. I will not let my opinion colour facts in a pessimistic or negative way.
VI. I will practice smiling at least 3 times a day.
VII. Regardless of what happens, I will react as calmly and intelligently as possible.
VIII. I will completely ignore and close my mind to all those pessimistic and negative facts I can do nothing to change.
p.121
[7] Speak more impulsively, do not consciously criticise yourself , speak louder than usual and compliment at least 3 people a day .
p.202
[8] Visualise yourself sitting quietly and unmoved by things that trigger anxiety or fear. When encountering these things in real life say to oneself " I am letting the telephone ring.
p.222
For those who are curious here are the Practical Exercises
[1] Read chapter 2 three times per week or until memorised (effectively understand the Cybernetics part of Pyscho-Cybernetics. p.30
[2] Spend 30 minutes a day visualising yourself being successful and acting and reacting appropriately. p.51
[3] Spend 30 minutes a day relaxing to the following mental images:
a). Imagining oneself having extremely heavy limbs as though they were made of concrete sinking into a mattress
b). Imagining oneself as a marionette puppet but with all the various connecting strings as being limp and loose.
c). Imagining oneself as being composed of giant balloons and whilst lying down slowly letting them deflate.
d). A relaxing experience from your past.
p.67
[4] Several times a day remember a period of great relaxation and mentally repeat to yourself "I am relaxed". p.104
[5] Form the habit of being goal oriented and react positively aggressively to threats and challenges p.115
[6] Make the following affirmations every morning:
I. I am beginning the day in a new and better way.
II. I will be as cheerful as possible.
III. I am going to be a little less critical and a little more tolerant of other people, their faults, failings and mistakes. I will place the best possible interpretation on their actions.
IV. Insofar as possible, I am going to act as though successes are inevitable, and I already am the personality I want to be. I will practice acting like and feeling like this new personality.
V. I will not let my opinion colour facts in a pessimistic or negative way.
VI. I will practice smiling at least 3 times a day.
VII. Regardless of what happens, I will react as calmly and intelligently as possible.
VIII. I will completely ignore and close my mind to all those pessimistic and negative facts I can do nothing to change.
p.121
[7] Speak more impulsively, do not consciously criticise yourself , speak louder than usual and compliment at least 3 people a day .
p.202
[8] Visualise yourself sitting quietly and unmoved by things that trigger anxiety or fear. When encountering these things in real life say to oneself " I am letting the telephone ring.
p.222
August 11, 2016
Some notes from Psycho-Cybernetics divided by chapters.
TLDR: “You will act like the sort of person you conceive yourself to be.”
1. THE SELF IMAGE: YOUR KEY TO A BETTER LIFE
2. DISCOVERING THE SUCCESS MECHANISM WITHIN You
3. IMAGINATION—THE FIRST KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS MECHANISM
4. DEHYPNOTIZE YOURSELF FROM FALSE BELIEFS
5. How TO UTILIZE THE POWER OF RATIONAL THINKING
6. RELAX AND LET YOUR SUCCESS MECHANISM WORK FOR YOU
- Do your worrying before you place your bet, not after the wheel starts turning.
- Form the habit of consciously responding to the present moment.
- Try to do only one thing at a time.
- Sleep on it.
- Relax while you work
7. YOU CAN ACQUIRE THE HABIT OF HAPPINESS
- Happiness Does Not Lie in the Future but the Present
- Stop Letting Things Push You Around
8. INGREDIENTS OF THE SUCCESS-TYPE PERSONALITY AND HOW TO ACQUIRE THEM
S-ense of direction (goal)
U-nderstanding (truth, admit mistakes)
C-ourage (to act, be willing to make mistakes)
C-harity (people are important)
E-steem
S-elf-Confidence (remember past successes, forget failures.)
S-elf-Acceptance
9. THE FAILURE MECHANISM: HOW TO MAKE IT WORK FOR YOU INSTEAD OF AGAINST YOU
F-rustration, hopelessness, futility
A-ggressiveness (misdirected)
I-nsecurity
L-oneliness (lack of "oneness")
U-ncertainty
R-esentment (is inconsistent with creative goal-striving)
E-mptiness
In creative goal-striving, you are the actor, not the passive recipient.
You set your goals. No one owes you anything. You go out after your own goals.
You become responsible for your own success, and happiness.
10. HOW TO REMOVE EMOTIONAL SCARS, OR HOW TO GIVE YOURSELF AN EMOTIONAL FACE
LIFT
Self-fulfilled persons:
1. They see themselves as liked, wanted, acceptable and able individuals.
2. They have a high degree of acceptance of themselves as they are.
3. They have a feeling of oneness with others.
4. They have a rich store of information and knowledge.
Give Up Grudges as You Would a Gangrenous Arm
You Make Mistakes—Mistakes Do Not Make "You"
11. HOW TO UNLOCK YOUR REAL PERSONALITY
Excessive Negative Feedback is the Key to Inhibition
Conscious Self-Criticism Makes You Do Worse
Excessive "Carefulness" Leads to Inhibition and Anxiety
The way to make a good impression on other people is:
Never consciously "try" to make a good impression on them.
Act — and correct your actions as you go along.
Accept Negative Feelings as a Challenge
React Aggressively to Your Own Negative "Advice"
The Substitution Method of Curing Worry
12. DO-IT-YOURSELF TRANQUILIZERS THAT BRING PEACE OF MIND
Over-response Is a Bad Habit Which Can Be Cured - by relaxation
If You Cannot Ignore the Response—Delay It
Build Yourself a Quiet Room in Your Mind
Calmness Carries Over, Too
ACT !
Stop Fighting Straw Men
13. HOW TO TURN A CRISIS INTO A CREATIVE OPPORTUNITY
attitude: "fearlessly accepting the challenge," and "confidently expending our strength."
maintain an aggressive, a goal-directed attitude, rather than a defensive, evasive, negative one
- Shadow-boxing for Stability
- Crisis Brings Power
"when great demands are made upon us, if only we fearlessly accept the challenge and confidently expend our strength, every danger or difficulty brings its own strength"
- Keep Your Goal in Mind
- Don't Mistake Excitement for Fear
"What Is the Worst That Can Possibly Happen?"
- What Have You Got to Lose?
14. HOW TO GET "THAT WINNING FEELING"
- Think in Terms of Possibilities
Your Nervous System Can't Tell "Real Failure" from Imagined Failure
"Nothing succeeds like success."
- Don't Take Counsel of Your Fears
- The Choice Is Up to You
- Old Recordings Can Be Changed
15. MORE YEARS OF LIFE AND MORE LIFE IN YOUR YEARS
- Life Force—The Secret of Healing and the Secret of Youth
- Look Forward and Live
- Create a Need for More Life
#
TLDR: “You will act like the sort of person you conceive yourself to be.”
1. THE SELF IMAGE: YOUR KEY TO A BETTER LIFE
2. DISCOVERING THE SUCCESS MECHANISM WITHIN You
3. IMAGINATION—THE FIRST KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS MECHANISM
4. DEHYPNOTIZE YOURSELF FROM FALSE BELIEFS
5. How TO UTILIZE THE POWER OF RATIONAL THINKING
6. RELAX AND LET YOUR SUCCESS MECHANISM WORK FOR YOU
- Do your worrying before you place your bet, not after the wheel starts turning.
- Form the habit of consciously responding to the present moment.
- Try to do only one thing at a time.
- Sleep on it.
- Relax while you work
7. YOU CAN ACQUIRE THE HABIT OF HAPPINESS
- Happiness Does Not Lie in the Future but the Present
- Stop Letting Things Push You Around
8. INGREDIENTS OF THE SUCCESS-TYPE PERSONALITY AND HOW TO ACQUIRE THEM
S-ense of direction (goal)
U-nderstanding (truth, admit mistakes)
C-ourage (to act, be willing to make mistakes)
C-harity (people are important)
E-steem
S-elf-Confidence (remember past successes, forget failures.)
S-elf-Acceptance
9. THE FAILURE MECHANISM: HOW TO MAKE IT WORK FOR YOU INSTEAD OF AGAINST YOU
F-rustration, hopelessness, futility
A-ggressiveness (misdirected)
I-nsecurity
L-oneliness (lack of "oneness")
U-ncertainty
R-esentment (is inconsistent with creative goal-striving)
E-mptiness
In creative goal-striving, you are the actor, not the passive recipient.
You set your goals. No one owes you anything. You go out after your own goals.
You become responsible for your own success, and happiness.
10. HOW TO REMOVE EMOTIONAL SCARS, OR HOW TO GIVE YOURSELF AN EMOTIONAL FACE
LIFT
Self-fulfilled persons:
1. They see themselves as liked, wanted, acceptable and able individuals.
2. They have a high degree of acceptance of themselves as they are.
3. They have a feeling of oneness with others.
4. They have a rich store of information and knowledge.
Give Up Grudges as You Would a Gangrenous Arm
You Make Mistakes—Mistakes Do Not Make "You"
11. HOW TO UNLOCK YOUR REAL PERSONALITY
Excessive Negative Feedback is the Key to Inhibition
Conscious Self-Criticism Makes You Do Worse
Excessive "Carefulness" Leads to Inhibition and Anxiety
The way to make a good impression on other people is:
Never consciously "try" to make a good impression on them.
Act — and correct your actions as you go along.
Accept Negative Feelings as a Challenge
React Aggressively to Your Own Negative "Advice"
The Substitution Method of Curing Worry
12. DO-IT-YOURSELF TRANQUILIZERS THAT BRING PEACE OF MIND
Over-response Is a Bad Habit Which Can Be Cured - by relaxation
If You Cannot Ignore the Response—Delay It
Build Yourself a Quiet Room in Your Mind
Calmness Carries Over, Too
ACT !
Stop Fighting Straw Men
13. HOW TO TURN A CRISIS INTO A CREATIVE OPPORTUNITY
attitude: "fearlessly accepting the challenge," and "confidently expending our strength."
maintain an aggressive, a goal-directed attitude, rather than a defensive, evasive, negative one
- Shadow-boxing for Stability
- Crisis Brings Power
"when great demands are made upon us, if only we fearlessly accept the challenge and confidently expend our strength, every danger or difficulty brings its own strength"
- Keep Your Goal in Mind
- Don't Mistake Excitement for Fear
"What Is the Worst That Can Possibly Happen?"
- What Have You Got to Lose?
14. HOW TO GET "THAT WINNING FEELING"
- Think in Terms of Possibilities
Your Nervous System Can't Tell "Real Failure" from Imagined Failure
"Nothing succeeds like success."
- Don't Take Counsel of Your Fears
- The Choice Is Up to You
- Old Recordings Can Be Changed
15. MORE YEARS OF LIFE AND MORE LIFE IN YOUR YEARS
- Life Force—The Secret of Healing and the Secret of Youth
- Look Forward and Live
- Create a Need for More Life
#
November 28, 2015
Reading it through a second time. Love the era it was written in! A plastic surgeon who found out more about people than a psychiatrist ever could! Great self image booster
August 9, 2015
Enough to say that I created the shelf called best-book-ever for this book.
August 5, 2023
You are "how" you think you are... change your thinking and change the direction of your life.
Surgery can sometimes fix your physical flaws, but mental flaws need to be addressed.
This plastic surgeon knows that he is talking about. There are more updated discussions of mind over matter, you are what you think, etc., but this is still a worthwhile read.
A great tool in the "fix it yourself" toolkit I like to keep adding to!
Surgery can sometimes fix your physical flaws, but mental flaws need to be addressed.
This plastic surgeon knows that he is talking about. There are more updated discussions of mind over matter, you are what you think, etc., but this is still a worthwhile read.
A great tool in the "fix it yourself" toolkit I like to keep adding to!
May 22, 2021
This one is no bullshit self help. It is, plain and simple, deeply illuminating; even life changing!
I had many 'aha' moments, which is rare for these kinds of books. This is a book from 60s; and the author was working as a plastic surgeon then. In a nutshell the motto of the book is: do not simply add years to life, but add more life to the years!
I had many 'aha' moments, which is rare for these kinds of books. This is a book from 60s; and the author was working as a plastic surgeon then. In a nutshell the motto of the book is: do not simply add years to life, but add more life to the years!
June 3, 2020
What a strange blend of practical, sports psychology-type tips and absolute nonsense. If he could have left out the absolute nonsense, it could have been a good book.
December 3, 2016
The best self book on mindset EVER!
This book was recommended by a millionaire mentor of mine. This book has already started to help me immensely turn my brain and thoughts into an asset instead of it being a battlefield of negative thoughts and having the self image of myself as being unworthy and not believing in myself.
I remember reading reviews for this book only 2 months ago and trying to convince myself not to take the plunge despite all of the people saying this book changed their life.
Well...it was one of the best decisions I have made. And i confidently know I will use the practices in this book for the rest of my life to be a happy, confident, and strong goal-attacking person. Dr. Maltz's guidance is already starting to ring in my head almost daily.
I value the mental benefits of this book in the thousands honestly.
Just get it. Start. Do the practice exercises. Don't be judgmental of it and it will work for you.
This book was recommended by a millionaire mentor of mine. This book has already started to help me immensely turn my brain and thoughts into an asset instead of it being a battlefield of negative thoughts and having the self image of myself as being unworthy and not believing in myself.
I remember reading reviews for this book only 2 months ago and trying to convince myself not to take the plunge despite all of the people saying this book changed their life.
Well...it was one of the best decisions I have made. And i confidently know I will use the practices in this book for the rest of my life to be a happy, confident, and strong goal-attacking person. Dr. Maltz's guidance is already starting to ring in my head almost daily.
I value the mental benefits of this book in the thousands honestly.
Just get it. Start. Do the practice exercises. Don't be judgmental of it and it will work for you.
March 22, 2015
This was one of the best books (and most helpful) I have ever read in my life. It has been a life changer for me. I strongly recommend this book to anyone struggling with a poor self image or lacking confidence. This book will change your life. I can only thank the author so much for writing it and sharing! Why dont they teach some of this in schools? I dont know?
February 3, 2022
First published in 1960, this is one of the early self-help books that became more popular in the mid-twentieth century. Using techniques of cognitive behaviourism and rational emotive therapy, and mixing it with cybernetic systems theory, author Maltz addresses the self-image and mind-body connection to advise readers in visualisation, positive thinking and goal setting. My father had a copy of this on his bookshelf for years, and I never read it as a kid, but the title was memorable. Now I've listened to an updated audiobook version, with an introduction, sidebars and afterword written and narrated by the president of the Psycho-Cybernetics Foundation, Matt Furey. I liked its positive message, and I noticed that I already use some of its principles in my life. However, I just can't get on board with the analogy at its core, equating the way the human mind and body work with a computer, robot or similarly complex machine. At best it's a weak, inaccurate metaphor, and at worst, it creates unrealistic expectations for the person attempting to better themselves by following the advice outlined in the book. As a trained psychologist, I'm quite aware that this kind of false equivalence denigrates the human being with a broad misunderstanding of what we really are and how we actually work. It's worth noting that the author developed his ideas in counselling patients in his plastic surgery practice and is not formally educated in what he wrote about. You should also be aware that most of the research he mentions is well over 60 years old and the "updated" part is more about references to elements of modern society like the Internet rather than the latest in relevant fields like psychology or neuroscience. This doesn't mean the techniques described don't work, but if they don't, Maltz and Furey mostly advocate persistence rather than offering any alternatives. My opinion is that if you read this book, there's no harm in trying what it recommends, but don't expect miracles.
September 19, 2016
Although I've read several self-help and development books and am a fan of these kinds of books I didn't really believe that they could help me , i only considered them as an insight and a different perspective of life and towards the problems we face, but this has definitely changed with this book
In psycho- cybernetics as its name implies, it guides you through a journey of exploring how does the human mind perceive the environment and it is psychological makeup .
The thing that really impressed,me that this book is considered the guru of self-help books written since 1960, and many of the books I've read contained many principles Dr. Maltz mentioned. The writer was a plastic surgeon he wasn't a psychologist , he noticed that many of his patients came to him complaining about their ugly noses or an apparent scar and believing that due to those disfigurements they had a miserable life or unsuccessful business or marriages, after the surgeries their lives changed dramatically, the question raised was ,why? The beautiful nose nor the scar changed their environment or that their IQs increased ,thus there must be something in their own minds something has to do with their own perception of the environment and attitudes towards it that changed, something that didn't come from the outside, it came from within !
As children we grow looking up to the adults around us , believing in them either our parents, teachers or any adult around- it's a human nature- but the problem is that we grow up believing in what they've told us about who we are is true or a fact , eg; ur not smart in math , you can't run fast as your sister or brother etc... this book explains how this learning process starts and how does those messages we receive from adults while growing up define whom we are today (This chapter was very interesting ! )
The fundamental point I learned was that positive thinking and positive mental attitudes are not forced ideas , you can't just look at the full half of the glass and believe that this is going to change the way you perceive life , it's rather a long journey and practical steps to practice and learn .
The amazing part is that the human brain can't differentiate between real experiences and imaginary ones ! its scientifically proven and many experiments were done regarding this psychological concept; this book teaches you how to use your imagination and conscious thoughts to improve your skills in anything you want to master.
This idea of reprogramming our subconscious mind reminded me of the psychology behind our choosing behavior and advertisements, the idea is why advertisements are repeated all the time over and over on the tv , posters at the malls , we don't even notice that we saw them or gave attention to them yet we end up buying those products with out again thinking why did we buy them from the first place or if it was really the best product out there, in the same way you can reprogram your subconscious mind to believe in an idea and it will believe it , and act towards it and adopt that successful attitude.
This book gives an idea why some pioneers like Oprah for an example ever since she was a child she refused that she will be a maid for white people, this idea wasn't based on any scientific or any given information it's her mental attitude toward her environment that changed her fate
In psycho- cybernetics as its name implies, it guides you through a journey of exploring how does the human mind perceive the environment and it is psychological makeup .
The thing that really impressed,me that this book is considered the guru of self-help books written since 1960, and many of the books I've read contained many principles Dr. Maltz mentioned. The writer was a plastic surgeon he wasn't a psychologist , he noticed that many of his patients came to him complaining about their ugly noses or an apparent scar and believing that due to those disfigurements they had a miserable life or unsuccessful business or marriages, after the surgeries their lives changed dramatically, the question raised was ,why? The beautiful nose nor the scar changed their environment or that their IQs increased ,thus there must be something in their own minds something has to do with their own perception of the environment and attitudes towards it that changed, something that didn't come from the outside, it came from within !
As children we grow looking up to the adults around us , believing in them either our parents, teachers or any adult around- it's a human nature- but the problem is that we grow up believing in what they've told us about who we are is true or a fact , eg; ur not smart in math , you can't run fast as your sister or brother etc... this book explains how this learning process starts and how does those messages we receive from adults while growing up define whom we are today (This chapter was very interesting ! )
The fundamental point I learned was that positive thinking and positive mental attitudes are not forced ideas , you can't just look at the full half of the glass and believe that this is going to change the way you perceive life , it's rather a long journey and practical steps to practice and learn .
The amazing part is that the human brain can't differentiate between real experiences and imaginary ones ! its scientifically proven and many experiments were done regarding this psychological concept; this book teaches you how to use your imagination and conscious thoughts to improve your skills in anything you want to master.
This idea of reprogramming our subconscious mind reminded me of the psychology behind our choosing behavior and advertisements, the idea is why advertisements are repeated all the time over and over on the tv , posters at the malls , we don't even notice that we saw them or gave attention to them yet we end up buying those products with out again thinking why did we buy them from the first place or if it was really the best product out there, in the same way you can reprogram your subconscious mind to believe in an idea and it will believe it , and act towards it and adopt that successful attitude.
This book gives an idea why some pioneers like Oprah for an example ever since she was a child she refused that she will be a maid for white people, this idea wasn't based on any scientific or any given information it's her mental attitude toward her environment that changed her fate
June 1, 2020
This book is the Bible of all self development school's out there. Has to be read at least once a year. For as long as FOREVER.
September 26, 2017
The premise is that there exists an internal blueprint, a self-image, that lays at the foundation of thoughts, behavior, and feeling. This said self-image can be changed, the book maintains, by creative imagination and goal-oriented action. The message and techniques are simple enough and might be more or less useful. I am well aware that a practical book shouldn't be judged by its theoretical underpinnings, but by how certain actions are more or less likely to produce the advertised effect, while theory is only used to "sell" the ideas. The book contains the usual oratory propaganda and anecdotal evidence to support its case, which is to be expected. However, it is also full if pseudoscience and it doesn't fail to mention parapsychology and extra sensory perception, claiming them to be accepted by the scientific community. There's also an unquestioned assumption about how God created us and want us to be happy, it's rather distracting. The science is, of course, used only to serve the propaganda, with rare mentions of actual studies. But I think these misinformations and faults do not interfere with the main premise, and how the conclusions are drawn from it. The book may actually provide the desired effects and contains some good ideas. I only wish the pseudoscience and propaganda was kept to a minimum. But a process of critical distillation still leaves you with some food for thoughts.
August 22, 2011
This is like the mitochondrial Eve of self-help books; the core ideas of every other (non-spiritual) self-help book have been hiding in here since 1960. (Now I'm sure many of the ideas are even older than this, but it's like they all converged in this one book to save us the trouble of having to hunt them down from older books.)
There are a few inevitable anachronisms that have seeped in over the last half-century, but once I just let that slide I found this to be a really solid book of advice for getting your life in order. Especially back in 1960, it had to have been a far cry from the conventional advice of the time.
It's funny to think that I actually avoided investigating this book for a number of years because I thought the title sounded silly and archaic. Then when I finally read it the author explains that it simply refers to the use of logical cybernetic principles to the field of psychology, where you might not normally think of applying them. Basically a deliberate use of cause and effect, and target acquisition. It makes sense after the fact.
I just wonder why there's no Kindle version. It's 50 years old, the rights can't be that expensive. I'd buy a digital copy to complement my paper copy in a minute if they just offered one...
There are a few inevitable anachronisms that have seeped in over the last half-century, but once I just let that slide I found this to be a really solid book of advice for getting your life in order. Especially back in 1960, it had to have been a far cry from the conventional advice of the time.
It's funny to think that I actually avoided investigating this book for a number of years because I thought the title sounded silly and archaic. Then when I finally read it the author explains that it simply refers to the use of logical cybernetic principles to the field of psychology, where you might not normally think of applying them. Basically a deliberate use of cause and effect, and target acquisition. It makes sense after the fact.
I just wonder why there's no Kindle version. It's 50 years old, the rights can't be that expensive. I'd buy a digital copy to complement my paper copy in a minute if they just offered one...
June 22, 2018
Oh, the pain. This was so difficult to get through. I usually enjoy a self-help book at least mildly where I get "something" out of it, even if it is an insight into what "some" people find helpful. But, this! Ugh. There might be a few tasty bits but the narrator was not professional at all. It was so obvious he was reading and he droned to the point of exasperating me at times.
The material is also directed at straight, christian males. Even though there are a couple of disclaimers that this can be implemented at anyone, which it can, the writing includes scriptural quotes, lots of stories about golfing, and near-misogynistic examples. Yes, it can be applied to other audiences, but it sure left a bad taste in my mouth.
The material is also directed at straight, christian males. Even though there are a couple of disclaimers that this can be implemented at anyone, which it can, the writing includes scriptural quotes, lots of stories about golfing, and near-misogynistic examples. Yes, it can be applied to other audiences, but it sure left a bad taste in my mouth.
May 25, 2015
ی کتاب فوق العاده جالب برای من حداقل
کتابی ک برخلاف خیلی از مجموعه کتابای تفکر مثبت حرفاش بنظر من دارای پایه و اساس منطقی قابل پذیرش بود
من یکی ک با خوندن این کتاب و عمل کردن ب بخش کوچکی از تمریناتش شاهد تغییرات زیادی در خودم بودم و الانم برای بار دوم دارم میخونمش و توصیم اینه ک حتما بیش از یکبار بخونیدش بار دوم با توجه ب آشنایی ذهنتون با کلیات مطلب جزئیات زیادی از کتاب رو درک میکنید.
کتابی ک برخلاف خیلی از مجموعه کتابای تفکر مثبت حرفاش بنظر من دارای پایه و اساس منطقی قابل پذیرش بود
من یکی ک با خوندن این کتاب و عمل کردن ب بخش کوچکی از تمریناتش شاهد تغییرات زیادی در خودم بودم و الانم برای بار دوم دارم میخونمش و توصیم اینه ک حتما بیش از یکبار بخونیدش بار دوم با توجه ب آشنایی ذهنتون با کلیات مطلب جزئیات زیادی از کتاب رو درک میکنید.
April 15, 2020
fucking finally finished it. anyways. interesting concepts are discussed in this book but unless you really, truly need to deal with a whole laundry list of personal issues, just read the book summary. it probably has fewer references to how we're all children of God, which I assume would be pretty tedious to read for non-believers.
August 31, 2012
totally mind changing book...packed with alot of big ideas
one of the most mind blowing ideas.. is that we are all Self-Hypnotized & we need to De-Hypnotize oneself
Quote: “It is no exaggeration to say that every human being is hypnotized to some extent, either by ideas he has uncritically accepted from others, or ideas he has repeated to himself or convinced himself are true. These negative ideas have exactly the same effect upon our behavior as the negative ideas implanted into the mind of a hypnotized subject by a professional hypnotist.”
also "Over Thinking/Analyzing" & how to overcome this stupid habit... Unfortunately I'm addicted to it
in the Audio version of the book he made an example by an episode of "Dr.Frasier" the TV series... I found it on YouTube and saw it... then I said OMG this is totally me
Must see video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18eQDe...
anyway..its so hard for me to summarize this book ..but Brian Johnson from philosophersnotes.com did a great job summarizing it
actually the first time I heard about this book was from his notes
highly recommend to check him out
http://www.philosophersnotes.com/note...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wvmQYO...
but also highly recommend to read & reRead the whole book
one of the most mind blowing ideas.. is that we are all Self-Hypnotized & we need to De-Hypnotize oneself
Quote: “It is no exaggeration to say that every human being is hypnotized to some extent, either by ideas he has uncritically accepted from others, or ideas he has repeated to himself or convinced himself are true. These negative ideas have exactly the same effect upon our behavior as the negative ideas implanted into the mind of a hypnotized subject by a professional hypnotist.”
also "Over Thinking/Analyzing" & how to overcome this stupid habit... Unfortunately I'm addicted to it
in the Audio version of the book he made an example by an episode of "Dr.Frasier" the TV series... I found it on YouTube and saw it... then I said OMG this is totally me
Must see video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18eQDe...
anyway..its so hard for me to summarize this book ..but Brian Johnson from philosophersnotes.com did a great job summarizing it
actually the first time I heard about this book was from his notes
highly recommend to check him out
http://www.philosophersnotes.com/note...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wvmQYO...
but also highly recommend to read & reRead the whole book
June 9, 2020
ممتاز بالنسبة لكتاب في 1960
كتاب (تنمية بشريّة) يفيد قارئه من جهة
ويقدّم أفكارًا سطحيّة وجريئة ومخالفة للعلم من جهة
القصص المذكورة أشكّ في صحّتها
ولها دلالات خطيرة لو صدقت، مثلًا: مندوب
مبيعات يربح 5 آلاف دولار سنويًا مهما كانت
الظروف، بسبب تصوره عن نفسه، الذي يجعله
يمرض بمجرّد ما يكمل 5 آلاف حتى آخرالعام
فلو عدّل تصوّره لاستحقاقه لتغيّرت حياته وجسمه
وهذا ينطوي على بعض المجازفات السامّة في ظنّي
كتاب (تنمية بشريّة) يفيد قارئه من جهة
ويقدّم أفكارًا سطحيّة وجريئة ومخالفة للعلم من جهة
القصص المذكورة أشكّ في صحّتها
ولها دلالات خطيرة لو صدقت، مثلًا: مندوب
مبيعات يربح 5 آلاف دولار سنويًا مهما كانت
الظروف، بسبب تصوره عن نفسه، الذي يجعله
يمرض بمجرّد ما يكمل 5 آلاف حتى آخرالعام
فلو عدّل تصوّره لاستحقاقه لتغيّرت حياته وجسمه
وهذا ينطوي على بعض المجازفات السامّة في ظنّي
November 19, 2020
مجرد تكرار لنصائح معروفة وقد اسماها اسماً علميا كالعادة لجذب القراء جزءٌ مظلم من كتب تطوير الذات التي يعيبها أنك تجد كتاباً رائعاً يستحق عناء الوصول إليه وسط كومةٍ من الكتب المكررة المضيعة للوقت
قد يكون الكتابُ مفيداً لمن لم يقرأ في الموضوع من قبل " التحكم في في المشاعر ،
السعادة شعور داخلي وغيرها
....
قد يكون الكتابُ مفيداً لمن لم يقرأ في الموضوع من قبل " التحكم في في المشاعر ،
السعادة شعور داخلي وغيرها
....
February 21, 2016
Chapter 1
Your Self-Image And How It Affects You
Psycho-Cybernetics: Your Mind And Its Automatic Guidance System
1. It is our self-image that prescribes our limits. And achieving a positive self-image--the life instinct, rather than the destructive instinct--is within the capability of every man, woman, and child.
2. Maltz determined that the human brain and nervous system function as a kind of servomechanism, a goal-seeking device like those used to guide airplanes on automatic pilot. This is why he called his central idea Psych-Cybernetics: the science of cybernetics as applied to the human mind. The self-image, Maltz maintained, is the key element that determines whether our internal guidance system functions for success or failure. It defines the size and scope of the targets our goal-seeking device has to shoot for--"the area of the possible."
Six Steps to Success:
1. Program Yourself for Success
2. Imagine Your Way to Success
3. Relax and Turn Stress into Success
4. Set Goals: A Prerequisite to Success
5. Use Negative Feedback to Point You Toward Success
S-ense of direction F-rustration
U-nderstanding A-ggressiveness
C-ourage I-nsecurity
C-harity L-oneliness
E-steem U-ncertainty
S-elf confidence R-esentment
S-elf acceptance E-mptiness
6. Disinhibit Your Personality and Fuel Success
Chapter 2
How to Program Your Success Mechanism
When we are deprived of the ability to stretch our boundaries and capabilities, we can exist in an almost hibernating state, semi-alive, with all but our survivalist abilities on hold, and a feeling of being cold and alone, cut off from nature and the universe. But when our talents are required and rewarded, we can stretch our abilities, use the energy of self-esteem to activate the unique mix of universal human traits we each possess, and uncover a microcosm of the universe within ourselves.
Anything that has been learned can be reevaluated and challenged. Anything that has been challenged can be "relearned" with new data to replace the old.
You acquired your self-image through subconscious habit.
The CRAFT of Reprogramming: Five Steps to a New Self-Image
1. C-ancel old, negative data
2. R-eplace it with new, positive data
3. A-ffirm your new self-image
4. F-ocus on an image of success
5. T-rain yourself in your new attitudes and behavior
The Two Principles Of The Subconscious Mind
1. The agreement principle: The subconscious mind always says "yes" to everything the conscious mind tells it.
2. The compliance principle: The subconscious mind always moves in the direction in which the conscious mind points it.
The Two Principles Of The Conscious Mind
1. The selection principle: The conscious mind looks at options and makes purposeful choices among them.
2. The elimination principle: Once the conscious mind has made its selection, all other possible are eliminated for that given moment.
Chapter 3
Fake It Till You Make It: Imagining Your Way To Success
Realizing that our actions, feelings, and behavior are the result of our own images and beliefs give us the lever that psychology has always needed for changing personality.
You are responsible for the thoughts you have in your head at any given time. You have the capacity to think whatever you choose, and virtually all your self-defeating attitudes and behaviors originate in the way you choose to think.
Reflective Relearning: Four Keys to Creating New Attitudes and Behavior
Anything you imagine to be true is accepted as true by your subconscious mind.
An imagined experience is perceived and acted on by your subconscious mind exactly the same as a real experience.
Your behavior follows what you believe to be true.
Your behavior changes in the direction of your beliefs.
Chapter 4
Free yourself from false beliefs
Imagine this scene: you've got a full-grown elephant with a two-inch band of steel around her hind leg, attached to a chain perhaps six feet long. The chain in turn is fastened to a stake that's been driven into the ground. Now, it's obvious that elephant could pull up the stake any time she wished. But she doesn't. That elephant was first chained to the stake when she was a baby and wasn't strong enough to move it. She soon learned the futility of trying to yank the stake free and began to accept it as a condition of her life. By the time she was strong enough to free herself, she had stopped trying. Many of us human beings are constrained by beliefs as false as that elephant's.
Ask yourself the following questions each time you catch yourself saying "I can't," "I'm not worthy," or "I'm afraid":
Is there any rational reason for such a belief?
Could I be mistaken in this belief?
Would I come to the same conclusion about some other person in a similar situation?
Why should I continue to act and feel as if this were true if there is no good reason to believe it?
Chapter 5
Give Your Success Mechanism Some Slack: Learn to Relax
"Physical relaxation," Maltz wrote, "plays a key role in the dehypnotization process. Our currently held beliefs...we're formed without effort, with no sense of strain... Our habits, whether good or bad, were formed in the same way. It follows that we must employ the same process in forming new beliefs, or new habits, that is, in a relaxed condition."
Relaxation is an aid to health and problem solving as well as a necessary condition for the work of reprogramming your internal guidance system.
There are numerous effective procedures for achieving relaxation. Find the one that's most effective for you.
Chapter 6
Just Say Yes:
DE-Stress Yourself with Drug-Free Tranquilizers
Our disturbed feelings--our anger, hostility, fear, anxiety, insecurity, are caused by our responses--not by externals... Thus, relaxation is nature's own tranquilizer, which erects a psychic screen...between you and the disturbing stimulus.
Sow SEEDS and Reap Success: Five Steps to Defusing Anxiety
S-ituation
E-valuation
E-motions
D-o
S-elf-esteem
Remember: The only way people can push your buttons is if you let it happen.
Four Drug-Free Tranquilizers
Develop Immunity to Stress Through Exercise
Reduce Stress Through Altered States of Consciousness (Don't medicate, meditate)
The Power of Laughter
Stress-Prevention Lists
Three On-the-Spot Stree-Reducers from the Doctor's First-Aid Kit
Delay the Response: This is the theory behind "counting to ten" when you get angry.
Build a Psychic Unbrella Through Relaxation: Become adept at slipping into your mind where stress and anxiety can't penetrate. Note relaxation techniques in chapter 5.
Take a Little Vacation Every Day: When you consciously take time out for a mini-vacation, your body has no choice but to respond. The level of stress-related hormones in your bloodstream can't help but subside.
Six Habitual Thoughts That Signal Stress
Overcriticizing yourself and/or others
Needing to control others
Expressing inner fears: playing the "what-if" game
Obsessing on past mistakes: playing the "if-only-I-had" or "if-only-I hadn't game
Playing Chicken Little: going around telling yourself, "The sky is falling, the sky is falling!"
"AwfuliIng and catastrophizing": making mountains out of molehills
Five "Red-Flag" Signals of Overstress
Changes on sleeping patterns
Changes in eating patterns
Frequent ailments
Addictive cravings
Increased feelings of futility and exhaustion
Chapter 7
Live Life By Your Own Script:
How To Choose And Set Goals
We are engineered as goal-seeking mechanisms. We are built that way. When we have no personal goal which we are interested in and which "means something" to us, we are apt to "go around in circles," feel "lost" and find life itself "aimless.".... People who say that life is not worthwhile are really saying that they themselves have no personal goals which are worthwhile.
What habits may be holding you back from establishing attainable goals, and how you can break them.
How to assess what goals are appropriate for you.
A five-point plan for setting realistic and practical goals.
A seven-point program for action that can get you from goal-setting to achievement.
Five-Point Plan:
Determine What Your Goals Need to Be
Dare to Dream: Draw a Map of Your Subconscious Interests
Learn to Trust Your Intuition
Taking Stock of Your Set Point: A Questionaire
Take an Inventory Your Skills
Program for Action:
Make Your Goals Specific
Set Measurable Goals
Develop an Action Plan for Your Goals
Decide What Goals Are Realistic for You
Set Time-Conscious Goals
Seven Point Program
Identify and write down goals.
Assign dates for achievement of your goals.
Identify possible obstacles.
Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed.
Focus on your skills.
Follow your plan of action.
Ask yourself "What's in it for me?"
Make sure your goals pass the SMART test:
S -pecific
M-easurable
A-ction-oriented
R-ealistic
T-ime-conscious
Chapter 8
Moving Ahead: From Goal-Setting to Goal-Getting
Functionally, a man is somewhat like a bike... A bicycle maintains its poise and equilibrium only so long as it is going forward towards something.
Life is moving vehicle with no brakes... If you spend too much time looking in the rearview mirror, you'll hit a tree.... That is why your front window is bigger than your rearview mirror. If you set realistic goals...and balance self-support with appropriate self-critism, you'll stay on the road.
This chapter is about obstacles and about minimizing their negative effects. You'll learn:
The two paradoxical reasons why people procrastinate, and what you can do to overcome them.
Six ways to keep your automatic mechanism from wandering off course.
Techniques for avoiding anxiety and discouragement as you pursue your goals by readjusting your set point.
Fear of Failure
Fear of Success
The Road to Success: Six Ways to Maximize Your Progress
Focus on Your Plan Daily
Set Up a Self-Monitoring System
Make a Contract with Friends and Co-Workers
Use Progressive Self-Discipline to Stay on Target
Design Your Own System of Motivational Rewards
Control Burnout by Setting Priorities and Narrowing Your Focus
Techniques
Sow SEEDS when you experience a setback.
There are no quick fixes
Review accomplishments
Reinforce your goal
Brainstorm new approaches
Chapter 9
Your Success Mechanism Revisited: Drawing A Blueprint For Change.
Our self-image and our habits tend to go together. Change one and you will automatically change the other....When we consciously and deliberately develop new and better habits, our self-image tends to outgrow the new habits and grow into the new pattern.
Answers to questions you many have about applying Psycho-Cybernetics in a systematic way:
Two model plans that show how others have integrated these skills into strategies for success and will aid you in designing your own.
Putting It All Together: Two Psycho-Cybernetics Success Stories
Retooling Your Self-Image for Career Advanvement
Awareness
Identifying false beliefs
Rational thinking
Relaxation
Reprogramming
Goal setting
Stress management
Progress check
2. Enchancing Your Self-Image for Personal Fulfillment
Awareness
Accessing the right brain for creative insight
Identifying false beliefs
Self-assessment
Goal setting
Reprogramming
Reality checking
Your Psycho-Cybernetics Blueprint
Changing habits: worksheet, pages 85-86
CRAFT, pages 25-27
False beliefs: identifying, pages 71-74
Goals: assessing your present set point, pages 165-168
Goals: maximizing progress, pages 193-206
Goals: overcoming procrastination, pages 189-193
Goals: the SMART plan, pages 170-180
Imagination, pages 46-49, 60-61
Relaxation: exercises and techniques, pages 106-119
SEEDS, pages 125-128
Stress management, pages 123-137
Stress prevention, pages 137-144
Chapter 10
Beyond The Self-Image: Shaping Your Personality For Success
I have found that one of the most effective means of helping people achieve [a] "successful" personality is to...give them a graphic picture of what the successful personality looks like.
-Maxwell Maltz, Psycho-Cybernetics (1960)
We are not on earth to live up to someone else's expectations. To make our unique contributions to the world, we each need to prize our individual worth and pursue our dreams.
The seven elements that add up to Maltz's "picture of success."
How each of these elements contributes to success.
Tips and techniques for acquiring each of these elements and shaping your-self image into a personality geared for success.
Sense of Direction: Charting a Path
Understanding: The Art of Two-Way Communication
Courage: A Prerequisite for Creating Change
Charity: Another Word for Respect
Esteem: The Keystone of Success
Self-Confidence: Keeping That Goal Within Reach
Self-Acceptance: Acknowledging Your Worth
S-ense of direction
U-nderstanding
C-ourage
C-harity
E-steem
S-elf confidence
S-elf acceptance
A "success-type personality" will empower you to set and achieve worthwhile goals throughout your lifetime.
Chapter 11
Heeding The Danger Signals: How To Avoid Failure
No one is immune to...negative feelings and attitudes.... The important thing is to recognize them for what they are, and take positive action to correct course.
The seven warning signals that comprise the "failure mechanism."
How to recognize when each of these signals is negatively impacting your self-image and deflecting toward your goal.
How to use feedback to poin you back on course toward success.
F-rustration
A-ggressiveness
I-nsecurity
L-oneliness
U-ncertainty
R-esentment
E-mptiness
Frustration: The First "Red Flag"
Aggressiveness: A Consequence of Frustration
Insecurity: When You Keep Hitting Those Curbs
Loneliness: "Lack of Oneness"
Uncertainty: When You Put Yourself on the Sideline
Resentment: Anger Gone Rotten
Emptiness: When Nothing Seems Worthwhile
Your automatic mechanism reaches it's goals by responding to these signals not as indications of failure but as guideposts to corrective action.
Chapter 12
Removing The Glitches From Your Personality
When a person has adequate self-esteem, little slights offer no threat at all-they are simply "passed over" and ignored. Even deeper emotional wounds are likely to heal faster and cleaner, with no festering sores to poison life and spoil happiness.
How to detect the glitches caused by emotional wounds that may be negatively impacting your personality.
Techniques for removing the glitches from your personality.
Five ways to build immunity against wounds.
How to free your personality from inhibition by responding appropriately to negative feedback.
Glitches can form in your personality as the result of emotional wounds or excessive negative feedback.
Forgiveness is the key to freeing yourself from the "scar tissue" caused by emotional wounds in the past.
You can take proactive measures to guard against emotional wounds.
You can free your personality from inhibition by learning to respond correctively to criticism.
Chapter 13
Making The Most Of Psycho-Cybernetics: Being Alive vs. Living
Everyone's real goal...is for more life--more living. Whatever your definition of happiness may be, you will experience happiness only as you experience more life. More living means among other things more accomplishment, the attainment of worthwhile goals, more love experienced and given, more health and enjoyment, more happiness for both yourself and others... [L]et us not limit our acceptance of Life by our own feelings of unworthiness.
The most exciting breakthroughs of the twenty-first century will occur not because of technology but because of an expanding concept of what it means to be human.
How a healthy self-image can actually add to your longevity.
How to tap the energies that let you take charge of your life.
How to access and maintain feelings that keep your self-esteem high.
Steps you can take to transcend negative experiences and make happiness a habit.
The way you feel about yourself can have an impact on your longevity.
Strengthen your life force by taking control of your life.
To keep your internal guidance system well tuned and your life force strong, take steps to make happiness a habit.
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Your Self-Image And How It Affects You
Psycho-Cybernetics: Your Mind And Its Automatic Guidance System
1. It is our self-image that prescribes our limits. And achieving a positive self-image--the life instinct, rather than the destructive instinct--is within the capability of every man, woman, and child.
2. Maltz determined that the human brain and nervous system function as a kind of servomechanism, a goal-seeking device like those used to guide airplanes on automatic pilot. This is why he called his central idea Psych-Cybernetics: the science of cybernetics as applied to the human mind. The self-image, Maltz maintained, is the key element that determines whether our internal guidance system functions for success or failure. It defines the size and scope of the targets our goal-seeking device has to shoot for--"the area of the possible."
Six Steps to Success:
1. Program Yourself for Success
2. Imagine Your Way to Success
3. Relax and Turn Stress into Success
4. Set Goals: A Prerequisite to Success
5. Use Negative Feedback to Point You Toward Success
S-ense of direction F-rustration
U-nderstanding A-ggressiveness
C-ourage I-nsecurity
C-harity L-oneliness
E-steem U-ncertainty
S-elf confidence R-esentment
S-elf acceptance E-mptiness
6. Disinhibit Your Personality and Fuel Success
Chapter 2
How to Program Your Success Mechanism
When we are deprived of the ability to stretch our boundaries and capabilities, we can exist in an almost hibernating state, semi-alive, with all but our survivalist abilities on hold, and a feeling of being cold and alone, cut off from nature and the universe. But when our talents are required and rewarded, we can stretch our abilities, use the energy of self-esteem to activate the unique mix of universal human traits we each possess, and uncover a microcosm of the universe within ourselves.
Anything that has been learned can be reevaluated and challenged. Anything that has been challenged can be "relearned" with new data to replace the old.
You acquired your self-image through subconscious habit.
The CRAFT of Reprogramming: Five Steps to a New Self-Image
1. C-ancel old, negative data
2. R-eplace it with new, positive data
3. A-ffirm your new self-image
4. F-ocus on an image of success
5. T-rain yourself in your new attitudes and behavior
The Two Principles Of The Subconscious Mind
1. The agreement principle: The subconscious mind always says "yes" to everything the conscious mind tells it.
2. The compliance principle: The subconscious mind always moves in the direction in which the conscious mind points it.
The Two Principles Of The Conscious Mind
1. The selection principle: The conscious mind looks at options and makes purposeful choices among them.
2. The elimination principle: Once the conscious mind has made its selection, all other possible are eliminated for that given moment.
Chapter 3
Fake It Till You Make It: Imagining Your Way To Success
Realizing that our actions, feelings, and behavior are the result of our own images and beliefs give us the lever that psychology has always needed for changing personality.
You are responsible for the thoughts you have in your head at any given time. You have the capacity to think whatever you choose, and virtually all your self-defeating attitudes and behaviors originate in the way you choose to think.
Reflective Relearning: Four Keys to Creating New Attitudes and Behavior
Anything you imagine to be true is accepted as true by your subconscious mind.
An imagined experience is perceived and acted on by your subconscious mind exactly the same as a real experience.
Your behavior follows what you believe to be true.
Your behavior changes in the direction of your beliefs.
Chapter 4
Free yourself from false beliefs
Imagine this scene: you've got a full-grown elephant with a two-inch band of steel around her hind leg, attached to a chain perhaps six feet long. The chain in turn is fastened to a stake that's been driven into the ground. Now, it's obvious that elephant could pull up the stake any time she wished. But she doesn't. That elephant was first chained to the stake when she was a baby and wasn't strong enough to move it. She soon learned the futility of trying to yank the stake free and began to accept it as a condition of her life. By the time she was strong enough to free herself, she had stopped trying. Many of us human beings are constrained by beliefs as false as that elephant's.
Ask yourself the following questions each time you catch yourself saying "I can't," "I'm not worthy," or "I'm afraid":
Is there any rational reason for such a belief?
Could I be mistaken in this belief?
Would I come to the same conclusion about some other person in a similar situation?
Why should I continue to act and feel as if this were true if there is no good reason to believe it?
Chapter 5
Give Your Success Mechanism Some Slack: Learn to Relax
"Physical relaxation," Maltz wrote, "plays a key role in the dehypnotization process. Our currently held beliefs...we're formed without effort, with no sense of strain... Our habits, whether good or bad, were formed in the same way. It follows that we must employ the same process in forming new beliefs, or new habits, that is, in a relaxed condition."
Relaxation is an aid to health and problem solving as well as a necessary condition for the work of reprogramming your internal guidance system.
There are numerous effective procedures for achieving relaxation. Find the one that's most effective for you.
Chapter 6
Just Say Yes:
DE-Stress Yourself with Drug-Free Tranquilizers
Our disturbed feelings--our anger, hostility, fear, anxiety, insecurity, are caused by our responses--not by externals... Thus, relaxation is nature's own tranquilizer, which erects a psychic screen...between you and the disturbing stimulus.
Sow SEEDS and Reap Success: Five Steps to Defusing Anxiety
S-ituation
E-valuation
E-motions
D-o
S-elf-esteem
Remember: The only way people can push your buttons is if you let it happen.
Four Drug-Free Tranquilizers
Develop Immunity to Stress Through Exercise
Reduce Stress Through Altered States of Consciousness (Don't medicate, meditate)
The Power of Laughter
Stress-Prevention Lists
Three On-the-Spot Stree-Reducers from the Doctor's First-Aid Kit
Delay the Response: This is the theory behind "counting to ten" when you get angry.
Build a Psychic Unbrella Through Relaxation: Become adept at slipping into your mind where stress and anxiety can't penetrate. Note relaxation techniques in chapter 5.
Take a Little Vacation Every Day: When you consciously take time out for a mini-vacation, your body has no choice but to respond. The level of stress-related hormones in your bloodstream can't help but subside.
Six Habitual Thoughts That Signal Stress
Overcriticizing yourself and/or others
Needing to control others
Expressing inner fears: playing the "what-if" game
Obsessing on past mistakes: playing the "if-only-I-had" or "if-only-I hadn't game
Playing Chicken Little: going around telling yourself, "The sky is falling, the sky is falling!"
"AwfuliIng and catastrophizing": making mountains out of molehills
Five "Red-Flag" Signals of Overstress
Changes on sleeping patterns
Changes in eating patterns
Frequent ailments
Addictive cravings
Increased feelings of futility and exhaustion
Chapter 7
Live Life By Your Own Script:
How To Choose And Set Goals
We are engineered as goal-seeking mechanisms. We are built that way. When we have no personal goal which we are interested in and which "means something" to us, we are apt to "go around in circles," feel "lost" and find life itself "aimless.".... People who say that life is not worthwhile are really saying that they themselves have no personal goals which are worthwhile.
What habits may be holding you back from establishing attainable goals, and how you can break them.
How to assess what goals are appropriate for you.
A five-point plan for setting realistic and practical goals.
A seven-point program for action that can get you from goal-setting to achievement.
Five-Point Plan:
Determine What Your Goals Need to Be
Dare to Dream: Draw a Map of Your Subconscious Interests
Learn to Trust Your Intuition
Taking Stock of Your Set Point: A Questionaire
Take an Inventory Your Skills
Program for Action:
Make Your Goals Specific
Set Measurable Goals
Develop an Action Plan for Your Goals
Decide What Goals Are Realistic for You
Set Time-Conscious Goals
Seven Point Program
Identify and write down goals.
Assign dates for achievement of your goals.
Identify possible obstacles.
Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed.
Focus on your skills.
Follow your plan of action.
Ask yourself "What's in it for me?"
Make sure your goals pass the SMART test:
S -pecific
M-easurable
A-ction-oriented
R-ealistic
T-ime-conscious
Chapter 8
Moving Ahead: From Goal-Setting to Goal-Getting
Functionally, a man is somewhat like a bike... A bicycle maintains its poise and equilibrium only so long as it is going forward towards something.
Life is moving vehicle with no brakes... If you spend too much time looking in the rearview mirror, you'll hit a tree.... That is why your front window is bigger than your rearview mirror. If you set realistic goals...and balance self-support with appropriate self-critism, you'll stay on the road.
This chapter is about obstacles and about minimizing their negative effects. You'll learn:
The two paradoxical reasons why people procrastinate, and what you can do to overcome them.
Six ways to keep your automatic mechanism from wandering off course.
Techniques for avoiding anxiety and discouragement as you pursue your goals by readjusting your set point.
Fear of Failure
Fear of Success
The Road to Success: Six Ways to Maximize Your Progress
Focus on Your Plan Daily
Set Up a Self-Monitoring System
Make a Contract with Friends and Co-Workers
Use Progressive Self-Discipline to Stay on Target
Design Your Own System of Motivational Rewards
Control Burnout by Setting Priorities and Narrowing Your Focus
Techniques
Sow SEEDS when you experience a setback.
There are no quick fixes
Review accomplishments
Reinforce your goal
Brainstorm new approaches
Chapter 9
Your Success Mechanism Revisited: Drawing A Blueprint For Change.
Our self-image and our habits tend to go together. Change one and you will automatically change the other....When we consciously and deliberately develop new and better habits, our self-image tends to outgrow the new habits and grow into the new pattern.
Answers to questions you many have about applying Psycho-Cybernetics in a systematic way:
Two model plans that show how others have integrated these skills into strategies for success and will aid you in designing your own.
Putting It All Together: Two Psycho-Cybernetics Success Stories
Retooling Your Self-Image for Career Advanvement
Awareness
Identifying false beliefs
Rational thinking
Relaxation
Reprogramming
Goal setting
Stress management
Progress check
2. Enchancing Your Self-Image for Personal Fulfillment
Awareness
Accessing the right brain for creative insight
Identifying false beliefs
Self-assessment
Goal setting
Reprogramming
Reality checking
Your Psycho-Cybernetics Blueprint
Changing habits: worksheet, pages 85-86
CRAFT, pages 25-27
False beliefs: identifying, pages 71-74
Goals: assessing your present set point, pages 165-168
Goals: maximizing progress, pages 193-206
Goals: overcoming procrastination, pages 189-193
Goals: the SMART plan, pages 170-180
Imagination, pages 46-49, 60-61
Relaxation: exercises and techniques, pages 106-119
SEEDS, pages 125-128
Stress management, pages 123-137
Stress prevention, pages 137-144
Chapter 10
Beyond The Self-Image: Shaping Your Personality For Success
I have found that one of the most effective means of helping people achieve [a] "successful" personality is to...give them a graphic picture of what the successful personality looks like.
-Maxwell Maltz, Psycho-Cybernetics (1960)
We are not on earth to live up to someone else's expectations. To make our unique contributions to the world, we each need to prize our individual worth and pursue our dreams.
The seven elements that add up to Maltz's "picture of success."
How each of these elements contributes to success.
Tips and techniques for acquiring each of these elements and shaping your-self image into a personality geared for success.
Sense of Direction: Charting a Path
Understanding: The Art of Two-Way Communication
Courage: A Prerequisite for Creating Change
Charity: Another Word for Respect
Esteem: The Keystone of Success
Self-Confidence: Keeping That Goal Within Reach
Self-Acceptance: Acknowledging Your Worth
S-ense of direction
U-nderstanding
C-ourage
C-harity
E-steem
S-elf confidence
S-elf acceptance
A "success-type personality" will empower you to set and achieve worthwhile goals throughout your lifetime.
Chapter 11
Heeding The Danger Signals: How To Avoid Failure
No one is immune to...negative feelings and attitudes.... The important thing is to recognize them for what they are, and take positive action to correct course.
The seven warning signals that comprise the "failure mechanism."
How to recognize when each of these signals is negatively impacting your self-image and deflecting toward your goal.
How to use feedback to poin you back on course toward success.
F-rustration
A-ggressiveness
I-nsecurity
L-oneliness
U-ncertainty
R-esentment
E-mptiness
Frustration: The First "Red Flag"
Aggressiveness: A Consequence of Frustration
Insecurity: When You Keep Hitting Those Curbs
Loneliness: "Lack of Oneness"
Uncertainty: When You Put Yourself on the Sideline
Resentment: Anger Gone Rotten
Emptiness: When Nothing Seems Worthwhile
Your automatic mechanism reaches it's goals by responding to these signals not as indications of failure but as guideposts to corrective action.
Chapter 12
Removing The Glitches From Your Personality
When a person has adequate self-esteem, little slights offer no threat at all-they are simply "passed over" and ignored. Even deeper emotional wounds are likely to heal faster and cleaner, with no festering sores to poison life and spoil happiness.
How to detect the glitches caused by emotional wounds that may be negatively impacting your personality.
Techniques for removing the glitches from your personality.
Five ways to build immunity against wounds.
How to free your personality from inhibition by responding appropriately to negative feedback.
Glitches can form in your personality as the result of emotional wounds or excessive negative feedback.
Forgiveness is the key to freeing yourself from the "scar tissue" caused by emotional wounds in the past.
You can take proactive measures to guard against emotional wounds.
You can free your personality from inhibition by learning to respond correctively to criticism.
Chapter 13
Making The Most Of Psycho-Cybernetics: Being Alive vs. Living
Everyone's real goal...is for more life--more living. Whatever your definition of happiness may be, you will experience happiness only as you experience more life. More living means among other things more accomplishment, the attainment of worthwhile goals, more love experienced and given, more health and enjoyment, more happiness for both yourself and others... [L]et us not limit our acceptance of Life by our own feelings of unworthiness.
The most exciting breakthroughs of the twenty-first century will occur not because of technology but because of an expanding concept of what it means to be human.
How a healthy self-image can actually add to your longevity.
How to tap the energies that let you take charge of your life.
How to access and maintain feelings that keep your self-esteem high.
Steps you can take to transcend negative experiences and make happiness a habit.
The way you feel about yourself can have an impact on your longevity.
Strengthen your life force by taking control of your life.
To keep your internal guidance system well tuned and your life force strong, take steps to make happiness a habit.
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March 22, 2009
Ini adalah salah satu buku yang merubah hidup saya. Buku ini diterbitkan pada tahun 1960 dan saya membaca perama kali dalam bentuk resensi buku di harian Kompas pada tahun 1969, hanya membaca resensinya saja telah bisa merubah hidup saya yang pada saat itu masih hidup susah sebagai pegawai negeri sambil nyambi kuliah. Terlalu banyak kesulitan, kesedihan dan keluh kesah yang dirasakan pada saat itu.
Buku ini mengajarkan tehnik self-improvment yang menurut saya sangat "simple" dan masuk akal yaitu menyamakan cara kerja otak kita dan perangkat pencapain keinginan yang dituju seperti komputer. Komputer pada hakekatnya bisa dipakai untuk dua hal penting yaitu:
1. mendapatkan jawaban dari persoalan yang ingin dipecahkan (contohnya: searching maupun calculating)
2. mengarahkan kepada sasaran yang dituju dengan tepat (contohnya: peluru kendali, automatic landing system yang ada di pesawat terbang)
Buku ini mengajarkan bahwa kita sebagai manusia mempunyai komputer bahkan kebih canggih dalam otak kita dan mekanisme lainnya dalam tubuh kita, yang jadi masalah kita tidak pernah tahu bagaimana cara menggunakan dengan tepat utuk mencapai tujuan atau goal dalam kehidupan kita.
Karena kita mempunyai prinsip kerja komputer, prinsip yang paling dasar pada komputer garbage in dan garbage out berlaku juga pada diri kita, kalau kita selalu memasukkan data yang negatif kedalam diri kita yang keluar berupa kata-kata maupun tindakan yang kita lakukan pasti akan negatif yang menjauhkan kita dari apa yang kita inginkan oleh karena itu buku ini mengajarkan jangan sekali-kali memasukkan data negatif kedalam otak kita maupun perasaan kita, akibatnya bisa ditebak sendiri perbuatan dan perilaku kita menjadi negatif. Yang dimaksud dengan pikiiran dan perasaan negatif adalah seperti: tidak bisa, tidak mungkin, sedih, rendah diri dll. Saatnya memasukkan data positif saja yang dimasukan dalam otak kita dan perasaan kita seperti: pasti bisa, semua masalah ada pemecahannya, saya sama saja dengan orang lain punya kekurangan dan kelebihan masing-masing, bahagia, senang, dll.
Dengan latihan yang tidak begitu lama hasilnya sangat luar biasa bagaimana kita memandang dunia dengan kecerahan dan respon yang lebih positif dari lingkunagn kita terhadap kita karena kita menghilangkan semua hal yang sifatnya negatif. Jadi yang berubah harus kita dulu, kita tidak mungkin merubah respon lingkungan tanpa merubah diri terlebih dahulu.
Kemudian kita bisa menggunakan cara kerja komputer seperti peluru kendali untuk mencapai apa yang kita inginkan dengan mengunakan apa yang dinamakan "Mekanisme Sukses" dalam diri kita, karena kalau kita mengalami kegagalan yang terus menerus yang bekeja dalam diri kita adalah "Mekanisme Kegagalan".
Caranya seperti peluru kendali, sebetulnya peluru tersebut sudah tahu sasaran tembaknya dengan jelas, mekanisme elektronika yang ada didalam peluru kendali hanya menggunakan feedback system (sistem umpan balik) yang berupa data dari sasaran yang dituju, sehingga mekanisme dalam peluru kendali bisa melakukan koreksi terus menerus sampai sasaran bisa terkena dengan tepat. Begitu juga "mekanisme sukses" dalam diri manusia punya cara kerja persis dengan cara kerja peluru kendali dengan ketepatan dan kecepaan yang tidak kalah dengan peluru kendali. Yang dilakun oleh kita pertama-tama hanya memperjelas sasaran apa yang kita inginkan dengan gambaran yang sejelas-jelasnya bahkan kalau bisa se-olah-olah kita sudah mendapakannya dan yang kedua keyakinan bahwa kita pasti bisa/sukses mendapatkannya. Karena bagimanapun juga kita tidak akan pernah mendapatkan sesuatu yang kita sendiri tidak yakin bisa mendapatkan.
Seperti mekanisme kendali, sukses mekanisme dalam diri kita secara otomatis akan mengolah feedback terhadap keinginan atau sasaran yang sudah digambarkan secara jelas dan melakkan koreksi terhadap tindakan-tindakan kta sehingga sasaran itu tercapai dengan waktu yang kita bisa terkejut dengan hasilnya karena dalam banyak hal kita terlalu under estimate kemampuan diri kita sendiri padahal kita punya mekanisme sukses yang bekeja otomatis untuk diri kita 24 jam sehari tanpa henti, bahkan pada saat kita tidur otak kita masih terus bekerja.
Saya baru berhasil mendapakan buku ini pada tahun 1976, titip teman yang pergi ke Singapore dan pada tahun 1977 penulis beli buku tambahannya ketika penulis dapat kesempatan pergi ke Chicago, USA. Pada tahun 1995, buku ini saya berikan ke seoarng teman yang sekarang bekerja di New Zealand. Pada tahun 2005 saya beli buku yang sudah diperbarui dengan judul The New Psycho-Cybernetics di Singapore. Yang isinya persis sama hanya contoh-contoh keberhasilan yang diganti dan diperbanyak.
Saya rekomendasikan buku ini untuk dibaca bagi teman-teman yang menyukai buku "self improvement" bahwa jauh sebelum banyak buku-buku "self improvement" yang begitu menjamur saat ini, tahun 1960 sudah ada buku "self-improvement" yang sangat bagus, yang buku-buku lain setelah itu sangat mereferensikan teori-teori yang ada di buku ini. Saya tidak tahu apakah buku ini ada di toko buku di Indonesia, yang pasti di Singapore dan Amazon ada.
23 Maret 2009
Buku ini mengajarkan tehnik self-improvment yang menurut saya sangat "simple" dan masuk akal yaitu menyamakan cara kerja otak kita dan perangkat pencapain keinginan yang dituju seperti komputer. Komputer pada hakekatnya bisa dipakai untuk dua hal penting yaitu:
1. mendapatkan jawaban dari persoalan yang ingin dipecahkan (contohnya: searching maupun calculating)
2. mengarahkan kepada sasaran yang dituju dengan tepat (contohnya: peluru kendali, automatic landing system yang ada di pesawat terbang)
Buku ini mengajarkan bahwa kita sebagai manusia mempunyai komputer bahkan kebih canggih dalam otak kita dan mekanisme lainnya dalam tubuh kita, yang jadi masalah kita tidak pernah tahu bagaimana cara menggunakan dengan tepat utuk mencapai tujuan atau goal dalam kehidupan kita.
Karena kita mempunyai prinsip kerja komputer, prinsip yang paling dasar pada komputer garbage in dan garbage out berlaku juga pada diri kita, kalau kita selalu memasukkan data yang negatif kedalam diri kita yang keluar berupa kata-kata maupun tindakan yang kita lakukan pasti akan negatif yang menjauhkan kita dari apa yang kita inginkan oleh karena itu buku ini mengajarkan jangan sekali-kali memasukkan data negatif kedalam otak kita maupun perasaan kita, akibatnya bisa ditebak sendiri perbuatan dan perilaku kita menjadi negatif. Yang dimaksud dengan pikiiran dan perasaan negatif adalah seperti: tidak bisa, tidak mungkin, sedih, rendah diri dll. Saatnya memasukkan data positif saja yang dimasukan dalam otak kita dan perasaan kita seperti: pasti bisa, semua masalah ada pemecahannya, saya sama saja dengan orang lain punya kekurangan dan kelebihan masing-masing, bahagia, senang, dll.
Dengan latihan yang tidak begitu lama hasilnya sangat luar biasa bagaimana kita memandang dunia dengan kecerahan dan respon yang lebih positif dari lingkunagn kita terhadap kita karena kita menghilangkan semua hal yang sifatnya negatif. Jadi yang berubah harus kita dulu, kita tidak mungkin merubah respon lingkungan tanpa merubah diri terlebih dahulu.
Kemudian kita bisa menggunakan cara kerja komputer seperti peluru kendali untuk mencapai apa yang kita inginkan dengan mengunakan apa yang dinamakan "Mekanisme Sukses" dalam diri kita, karena kalau kita mengalami kegagalan yang terus menerus yang bekeja dalam diri kita adalah "Mekanisme Kegagalan".
Caranya seperti peluru kendali, sebetulnya peluru tersebut sudah tahu sasaran tembaknya dengan jelas, mekanisme elektronika yang ada didalam peluru kendali hanya menggunakan feedback system (sistem umpan balik) yang berupa data dari sasaran yang dituju, sehingga mekanisme dalam peluru kendali bisa melakukan koreksi terus menerus sampai sasaran bisa terkena dengan tepat. Begitu juga "mekanisme sukses" dalam diri manusia punya cara kerja persis dengan cara kerja peluru kendali dengan ketepatan dan kecepaan yang tidak kalah dengan peluru kendali. Yang dilakun oleh kita pertama-tama hanya memperjelas sasaran apa yang kita inginkan dengan gambaran yang sejelas-jelasnya bahkan kalau bisa se-olah-olah kita sudah mendapakannya dan yang kedua keyakinan bahwa kita pasti bisa/sukses mendapatkannya. Karena bagimanapun juga kita tidak akan pernah mendapatkan sesuatu yang kita sendiri tidak yakin bisa mendapatkan.
Seperti mekanisme kendali, sukses mekanisme dalam diri kita secara otomatis akan mengolah feedback terhadap keinginan atau sasaran yang sudah digambarkan secara jelas dan melakkan koreksi terhadap tindakan-tindakan kta sehingga sasaran itu tercapai dengan waktu yang kita bisa terkejut dengan hasilnya karena dalam banyak hal kita terlalu under estimate kemampuan diri kita sendiri padahal kita punya mekanisme sukses yang bekeja otomatis untuk diri kita 24 jam sehari tanpa henti, bahkan pada saat kita tidur otak kita masih terus bekerja.
Saya baru berhasil mendapakan buku ini pada tahun 1976, titip teman yang pergi ke Singapore dan pada tahun 1977 penulis beli buku tambahannya ketika penulis dapat kesempatan pergi ke Chicago, USA. Pada tahun 1995, buku ini saya berikan ke seoarng teman yang sekarang bekerja di New Zealand. Pada tahun 2005 saya beli buku yang sudah diperbarui dengan judul The New Psycho-Cybernetics di Singapore. Yang isinya persis sama hanya contoh-contoh keberhasilan yang diganti dan diperbanyak.
Saya rekomendasikan buku ini untuk dibaca bagi teman-teman yang menyukai buku "self improvement" bahwa jauh sebelum banyak buku-buku "self improvement" yang begitu menjamur saat ini, tahun 1960 sudah ada buku "self-improvement" yang sangat bagus, yang buku-buku lain setelah itu sangat mereferensikan teori-teori yang ada di buku ini. Saya tidak tahu apakah buku ini ada di toko buku di Indonesia, yang pasti di Singapore dan Amazon ada.
23 Maret 2009
October 8, 2015
“Creative striving for a goal that is important to you as a result of your own deep felt needs, aspirations and talents (and not the symbols which the ‘Joneses’ expect you to display) brings happiness as well as success because you will be functioning as you were meant to function. Man is by nature a goal-striving being. And because man is ‘built that way’ he is not happy unless he is functioning the way he was made to function—as a goal-striver. Thus true success and true happiness not only go together but each enhances the other.”
“Every human being has been literally ‘engineered for success’ by his Creator. Every human being has access to a power greater than himself.”
~ Maxwell Maltz from Psycho-Cybernetics
Psycho-Cybernetics. Funny name.
Great book! Maxwell Maltz was a world-renowned plastic surgeon who discovered that, while some people’s lives changed dramatically after he altered their appearance through plastic surgery, some people’s lives *didn’t*. He deduced that the primary factor that differentiated these groups was their self-image—not what they saw in the mirror but the images they had of themselves in their MINDS. Cool stuff.
He spent the second half of his career merging this self-image psychology with the then-popular science of “cybernetics”—which studies how things like guided missiles or “servo-mechanisms” hit their targets through a clear goal and constant adjustment of their course.
Here are some of the Big Ideas:
Cybernetics - Servo-mechanisms & you.
The Success Instinct - We’ve all got it!
Imagination - The first key.
Dehypnotize Yourself! - Starting now. :)
Rational Thought - How to use it.
Here’s to getting our Psycho-Cybernetic on as we set inspired goals, imagine our ideals, take action as we correct inevitable mistakes and practice FEELING our success. :)
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“Every human being has been literally ‘engineered for success’ by his Creator. Every human being has access to a power greater than himself.”
~ Maxwell Maltz from Psycho-Cybernetics
Psycho-Cybernetics. Funny name.
Great book! Maxwell Maltz was a world-renowned plastic surgeon who discovered that, while some people’s lives changed dramatically after he altered their appearance through plastic surgery, some people’s lives *didn’t*. He deduced that the primary factor that differentiated these groups was their self-image—not what they saw in the mirror but the images they had of themselves in their MINDS. Cool stuff.
He spent the second half of his career merging this self-image psychology with the then-popular science of “cybernetics”—which studies how things like guided missiles or “servo-mechanisms” hit their targets through a clear goal and constant adjustment of their course.
Here are some of the Big Ideas:
Cybernetics - Servo-mechanisms & you.
The Success Instinct - We’ve all got it!
Imagination - The first key.
Dehypnotize Yourself! - Starting now. :)
Rational Thought - How to use it.
Here’s to getting our Psycho-Cybernetic on as we set inspired goals, imagine our ideals, take action as we correct inevitable mistakes and practice FEELING our success. :)
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Here's my video review:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wvmQY...
And click here to find 250+ more of my reviews:
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Brian
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