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307 pages, Hardcover
First published May 16, 2017
This was the beginning of a cultural shift, the rise of the working woman, that would help transform our food supply and arguably the quality of the food we served our families. (12)
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But Balzer has noticed another major change in his lifetime. “We discovered that men can cook,” he said. And who was promoting this? “Every wife in America was telling her neighbors that nobody can barbecue like her husband. And for only one reason. Then and today, the number one person preparing the food is a woman. And she wants to do one thing, which the ages of humanity were trying to solve, and that is get out of it. So supermarkets come along and say, you know what? We’re going to start preparing food, because we are a food-service operation.
“The history of mankind always follows one path when it comes to eating,” Balzer concluded, “and it never deviates from that path. And that’s who’s going to do the cooking. The answer to that now is the same as it was since we began cooking: not me.”
Or to repeat his words to Pollan: not going to happen, because we’re cheap and lazy. (91)
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“Right now prepared foods account for 4 to 6 percent of our sales,” Carin told me. “In Chicago, that number is 8 percent. And I expect it will see double-digit growth, which is unheard of in any other department.”
“What accounts for the growth?” I asked.
“The driving force is women in the workforce and how much time people have,” she said. This seems intuitive, but her second reason for the growth was, to me, ominous. “Also, nobody knows how to cook anymore. It’s mind-boggling. Some women don’t even know how to hold a knife.”
“Interesting that you single out women,” I said. “Why is that?”
“Because, like it or not, women are still the ones who are mainly responsible for the meals at home.” (232)
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But what of the increasing number of prepared foods? It is surely a good thing, no? A range of nourishing, all-natural, good-for-you dishes that require no more preparation than a frozen dinner. Perfect for the busy dual-income family that has little time to devote to cooking. But it also means we have even less reason to cook. We have no need to share the work of preparing the food because someone else can do it for us. But with work comes a heightened appreciation of that work’s result, so when we bring home prepared food and heat it in the microwave or on the stovetop, there’s no one to thank or be grateful for, there’s no deeper appreciation of the food other than whether it tastes okay, and the house is without the relaxing aromas of food cooking. (251)
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Growing up in the 1970s I ate a lot of green beans, because that’s what Mom cooked while Dad was outside grilling the steaks. (253)I know it wasn’t the point of the book, but I ended up really wishing that Ruhlman had gone deeper into this rather than into what people should and shouldn’t be eating. Because…what I’m seeing is a suggestion that once women had more opportunities in the workforce, they put less time and effort into cooking, and men don’t want to do it either: that it’s a chore. And I’m left wondering: who does Ruhlman think should be responsible for cooking? Is the answer to learn to love it, or learn to get used to it? Why do we so often see cooking as a chore? It’s not a bad thing for anyone to spend a lot of time in the kitchen if cooking is something they enjoy, but it’s also not a bad thing for women to no longer feel pressure to spend so much time cooking for the family. But what then? Ruhlman’s stories from childhood suggest that his father did the shopping (because he enjoyed it) but his mother did the cooking (because it had to be done?), but I’d have liked more. Feels like a can of worms that is opened but not…I don’t know how to finish this analogy. Not fed to the fish?