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Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five
What’s the single most important thing you can do during pregnancy? What does watching TV do to a child’s brain? What’s the best way to handle temper tantrums? Scientists know.
In his New York Times bestseller Brain Rules, Dr. John Medina showed us how our brains really work—and why we ought to redesign our workplaces and schools. Now, in Brain Rules for Baby, he shares what the latest science says about how to raise smart and happy children from zero to 5. This book is destined to revolutionize parenting. Just one of the surprises: The best way to get your children into the college of their choice? Teach them impulse control.
Brain Rules for Baby bridges the gap between what scientists know and what parents practice. Through fascinating and funny stories, Medina, a developmental molecular biologist and dad, unravels how a child’s brain develops--and what you can do to optimize it.
You will view your children—and how to raise them—in a whole new light. You’ll learn:
Where nature ends and nurture begins
Why men should do more household chores
What you do when emotions run hot affects how your child turns out
TV is harmful for children under 2
Your child’s ability to relate to others predicts her future math performance
Smart and happy are inseparable. Pursuing your child’s intellectual success at the expense of his happiness achieves neither
Praising effort is better than praising intelligence
The best predictor of academic performance is not IQ. It’s self control
What you do right now—before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and through the first five years—will affect your children for the rest of their lives. Brain Rules for Baby is an indispensable guide.
In his New York Times bestseller Brain Rules, Dr. John Medina showed us how our brains really work—and why we ought to redesign our workplaces and schools. Now, in Brain Rules for Baby, he shares what the latest science says about how to raise smart and happy children from zero to 5. This book is destined to revolutionize parenting. Just one of the surprises: The best way to get your children into the college of their choice? Teach them impulse control.
Brain Rules for Baby bridges the gap between what scientists know and what parents practice. Through fascinating and funny stories, Medina, a developmental molecular biologist and dad, unravels how a child’s brain develops--and what you can do to optimize it.
You will view your children—and how to raise them—in a whole new light. You’ll learn:
Where nature ends and nurture begins
Why men should do more household chores
What you do when emotions run hot affects how your child turns out
TV is harmful for children under 2
Your child’s ability to relate to others predicts her future math performance
Smart and happy are inseparable. Pursuing your child’s intellectual success at the expense of his happiness achieves neither
Praising effort is better than praising intelligence
The best predictor of academic performance is not IQ. It’s self control
What you do right now—before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and through the first five years—will affect your children for the rest of their lives. Brain Rules for Baby is an indispensable guide.
8 pages, Audiobook
First published September 21, 2010
About the author
John Medina
56 books529 followersDR. JOHN J. MEDINA, a developmental molecular biologist, has a lifelong fascination with how the mind reacts to and organizes information. He is the author of the New York Times bestseller "Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School" -- a provocative book that takes on the way our schools and work environments are designed. His latest book is a must-read for parents and early-childhood educators: "Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five."
Medina is an affiliate Professor of Bioengineering at the University of Washington School of Medicine. He lives in Seattle, Washington, with his wife and two boys. www.brainrules.net
Medina is an affiliate Professor of Bioengineering at the University of Washington School of Medicine. He lives in Seattle, Washington, with his wife and two boys. www.brainrules.net
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October 28, 2010
One of the more overwhelming aspects of impending parenthood, I’ve discovered, is the infinite amount of advice people would like to give you. Searching for a book on pregnancy and parenting leads one to vast, candy-colored landscapes of literature, with each book insistently tugging in a different direction. It’s nearly impossible to separate fact from opinion, largely because most parenting "facts" boil down to opinions, anyway. This book caught my eye because it offers parenting advice within a framework I find particularly interesting: brain development, neuroscience, and quirky scientific studies.
Which isn’t to say that this is dry, boring nonfiction. This is definitely science for the layperson, and it’s fascinating. I wasn’t really in the market for a parenting book until I flipped through this one and browsed through a couple of Medina's interesting summaries of studies on baby brains, and the accompanying anecdotes from his own experience.
This book offers a mountain of interesting facts and extremely useful advice, but Medina takes great care to warn readers about taking parenting advice with a grain of salt. He writes up front that the data coming back from this sort of science is dangerously seductive, and that it's all too easy for parents to jump to the wrong conclusions and freak themselves out because "that's what the scientists say." The esoteric factor that makes neuroscience so interesting tends to complicate things for frustrated, sleep-deprived parents that just want someone to tell them what to do. Ultimately, for all of the information this book gives, Medina's advice for creating a smart, happy baby boils down to simple stuff we should be doing anyway: love your spouse, and love your kid.
His full disclosure regarding the ambiguity of the data is comforting, considering how he can't quite keep a few of his own biases out of the mix, including a definite grudge against video games and television. But, hey, everyone's got an opinion on parenting, right?
I don't usually go in for this kind of book, but I will definitely recommend this to anyone who is expecting or has young children.
Which isn’t to say that this is dry, boring nonfiction. This is definitely science for the layperson, and it’s fascinating. I wasn’t really in the market for a parenting book until I flipped through this one and browsed through a couple of Medina's interesting summaries of studies on baby brains, and the accompanying anecdotes from his own experience.
This book offers a mountain of interesting facts and extremely useful advice, but Medina takes great care to warn readers about taking parenting advice with a grain of salt. He writes up front that the data coming back from this sort of science is dangerously seductive, and that it's all too easy for parents to jump to the wrong conclusions and freak themselves out because "that's what the scientists say." The esoteric factor that makes neuroscience so interesting tends to complicate things for frustrated, sleep-deprived parents that just want someone to tell them what to do. Ultimately, for all of the information this book gives, Medina's advice for creating a smart, happy baby boils down to simple stuff we should be doing anyway: love your spouse, and love your kid.
His full disclosure regarding the ambiguity of the data is comforting, considering how he can't quite keep a few of his own biases out of the mix, including a definite grudge against video games and television. But, hey, everyone's got an opinion on parenting, right?
I don't usually go in for this kind of book, but I will definitely recommend this to anyone who is expecting or has young children.
November 12, 2010
By far the best book on parenting that I’ve read. Medina screens all of his content through a “grumpy scientist” filter, which means that if it hasn’t been proven, he doesn’t include it – or he notes that the information is still being studied. Therefore, I trust what this book has to say; it is not 276 pages of anecdotal advise based on personal experience or hearsay. More importantly, it squares with my understanding of how to raise children. The pleasant surprise for me is that the very hard work that I’ve been doing for the past four years will, in the end, provide my sons with happy and healthy childhoods. Some key points from the book are:
1) Praise effort over achievement; perseverance leads to well-adjusted, smart children
2) Turn the TV off before the age of two, closely monitor content after that.
3) Ban video games, texting, etc. while children are young
4) Emotion coach; label your feelings, help your children label theirs; empathize
5) See things from your child’s point of view on a regular basis
1) Praise effort over achievement; perseverance leads to well-adjusted, smart children
2) Turn the TV off before the age of two, closely monitor content after that.
3) Ban video games, texting, etc. while children are young
4) Emotion coach; label your feelings, help your children label theirs; empathize
5) See things from your child’s point of view on a regular basis
June 7, 2011
Medina is simple, direct, and interesting as an author. He does a nice job at splicing up research from a variety of fields and areas for the lay reader, such as myself. (Although, the academic in me would have liked the research better cited with a bibliography at the back of the book.)
It seemed to me that a lot of the research he refers to is not new and has been cited in Blink, Nurture Shock, Drive and other recent, popular, non-fiction books. Despite this, I didn't mind revisiting it in this new light. As a result, I left the text thinking more deeply about my behavior as a parent and a person. The importance of empathy as a human trait and empathy as an expressed behavior resonated with me. There is something truly magical when talking with a person who has the capacity to understand and relate to you with altruism.
Medina is successful at providing insight into neuroscience that is salient to human development. My trust was won, in part by the author's early discussion on associative versus causal data. This clearly put into light the level of caution that must be exercised when using data (especially qualitative research) to back a thesis with resounding certainty. Further, he is realistic about the challenges of meeting every need of a child. He does not give excuses for poor parenting, but he does show compassion for the inevitable limits every parent faces. This level of realism provides a space for Medina to interject a little humor and humanity into his writing.
On a more critical note, it seemed at times like the author’s agenda was splintered. On the one hand, he points to claims of children uttering complete sentences at 10 months of age when exposed to focused techniques (insert skeptical, eye twitching, forehead wrinkle here) and then turns around in further chapters telling the reader not to compare his/her child to others.
I found myself wondering, “If my job is to give my child the space he needs to develop without comparative pressure, what is the purpose of giving extreme examples of extraordinary baby development?” It seemed that some of the qualitative reports were given only to serve the very purpose the author later attempts to steer the reader away from, comparing your child's development to others.
I imagine that most parents who pick up this book are a bit like me, very concerned about the role they are playing in their child's development. I wonder how many other readers share my reaction when the author tells the story of his 9 month old saying the word “octopus”. I found myself wondering if I am even worthy of changing my son's diaper. "My god", I thought to myself, "My son is 15 months and has yet to utter a multi-syllabic word! Oh, the HORROR!”
If indeed, Medina's purpose was to spare the hyper-vigilant parent from meaningless comparisons, he could have taken out some of his more extreme examples of rare, but extraordinary linguistic and behavioral development. (Perhaps I am being just a tad bit over sensitive here.) But these moments did not seem relevant to the claim that turning off the T.V. or making eye contact with your child is important.
Despite these complaints and the few, “I am not qualified to parent. My son is doomed.” moments, the book reflected many of my own philosophies.
I see myself returning to the text and his website: www.brainrules.net/brain-rules-for-baby as a resource. It’s good to have a sober reminder as a parent to stay strong in a world where cable T.V., video games and armchair parenting are so seductive after a long day of work and a few sleepless nights.
It seemed to me that a lot of the research he refers to is not new and has been cited in Blink, Nurture Shock, Drive and other recent, popular, non-fiction books. Despite this, I didn't mind revisiting it in this new light. As a result, I left the text thinking more deeply about my behavior as a parent and a person. The importance of empathy as a human trait and empathy as an expressed behavior resonated with me. There is something truly magical when talking with a person who has the capacity to understand and relate to you with altruism.
Medina is successful at providing insight into neuroscience that is salient to human development. My trust was won, in part by the author's early discussion on associative versus causal data. This clearly put into light the level of caution that must be exercised when using data (especially qualitative research) to back a thesis with resounding certainty. Further, he is realistic about the challenges of meeting every need of a child. He does not give excuses for poor parenting, but he does show compassion for the inevitable limits every parent faces. This level of realism provides a space for Medina to interject a little humor and humanity into his writing.
On a more critical note, it seemed at times like the author’s agenda was splintered. On the one hand, he points to claims of children uttering complete sentences at 10 months of age when exposed to focused techniques (insert skeptical, eye twitching, forehead wrinkle here) and then turns around in further chapters telling the reader not to compare his/her child to others.
I found myself wondering, “If my job is to give my child the space he needs to develop without comparative pressure, what is the purpose of giving extreme examples of extraordinary baby development?” It seemed that some of the qualitative reports were given only to serve the very purpose the author later attempts to steer the reader away from, comparing your child's development to others.
I imagine that most parents who pick up this book are a bit like me, very concerned about the role they are playing in their child's development. I wonder how many other readers share my reaction when the author tells the story of his 9 month old saying the word “octopus”. I found myself wondering if I am even worthy of changing my son's diaper. "My god", I thought to myself, "My son is 15 months and has yet to utter a multi-syllabic word! Oh, the HORROR!”
If indeed, Medina's purpose was to spare the hyper-vigilant parent from meaningless comparisons, he could have taken out some of his more extreme examples of rare, but extraordinary linguistic and behavioral development. (Perhaps I am being just a tad bit over sensitive here.) But these moments did not seem relevant to the claim that turning off the T.V. or making eye contact with your child is important.
Despite these complaints and the few, “I am not qualified to parent. My son is doomed.” moments, the book reflected many of my own philosophies.
I see myself returning to the text and his website: www.brainrules.net/brain-rules-for-baby as a resource. It’s good to have a sober reminder as a parent to stay strong in a world where cable T.V., video games and armchair parenting are so seductive after a long day of work and a few sleepless nights.
October 20, 2010
First, in full disclosure my kids helped out in the viral video for this book. You can check it out here:
http://brainrules.net/brain-rules-for...
That being said, I'm not getting anything besides a free book that I picked up on the set for writing this review. This is a well written, reader friendly parenting book that ever parent should own.
This is a book that I will be keeping and referring back to often. The author gives tons of practical tips throughout and then sums everything up at the end of each chapter and at the end of the book for easy future reference, thank you!
I met the author on the set for the filming and what a lucky chance meeting that was for me. The author talked to me about one of the main concept discussed in the book, meeting your child with empathy. I talked to my sister about this and we really started making a conscious effort to be more empathetic with our kids. What happened was really beautiful. My sister had a situation come up where her son was heartbroken about being left out of a sleepover. Instead of saying too bad you'll be okay, she said, "I'm so sorry you are feeling sad," and then she went on to tell him about a similar story that happened to her when she was little. It was music to my ears. I tried it a couple of times with examples the author used like when kids whine for a glass of water tell them I wish I could give you a huge glass right now. I was skeptical, but when my daughter fell apart after a bracelet broke I responded by saying, "I'm so sorry your bracelet broke, if I could right now I would get you a new bracelet." Immediately she stopped crying and smiled. I was shocked. I followed up by saying, "No, I'd get you 5, no 10 bracelets," then laughter. I never had to get her a new bracelet, that was not the point. She just wanted to be heard and understood. This truly feels like the right thing to do. Even if you just read these chapters it will give you such a wonderful guide. So many times as a parent it is difficult for me to figure out what to do. This felt as close to how God would want me to parent that I can only hope that I can continue to keep it up. Even better this is all backed by scientific research.
Another chapter included a lot about how a happy marriage creates a happy baby. This seems so obvious, but it was interesting to read all the research that backed this one up. A big thanks to my Mom and Dad for loving each other so much during those formative years!
Other topics that I really enjoyed were: praising effort, not achievement, talking a lot with your kids about their emotions, more on the Tools of the Mind preschool, and the chapters on raising a moral child were amazing. It seems like the topic of raising moral kids doesn't get as much attention as it should.
If you have read, Nurture Shock you will notice a couple of similarities with this book including the praise chapter, and the Tools of the Mind sections. This book for me was so much more helpful on a practical level, and again is all backed by science.
Since I am right in the middle of breast-feeding baby #4 the section on nursing was just the boost I needed. One of my favorite quotes, "If America knew what breast milk can do for the brains of its youngest citizens, lactating mothers across the nation would be enshrined, not embarrassed." Another big thank you!
I could go on and on, but this review is already to long! Go grab this book, you won't be disappointed.
http://brainrules.net/brain-rules-for...
That being said, I'm not getting anything besides a free book that I picked up on the set for writing this review. This is a well written, reader friendly parenting book that ever parent should own.
This is a book that I will be keeping and referring back to often. The author gives tons of practical tips throughout and then sums everything up at the end of each chapter and at the end of the book for easy future reference, thank you!
I met the author on the set for the filming and what a lucky chance meeting that was for me. The author talked to me about one of the main concept discussed in the book, meeting your child with empathy. I talked to my sister about this and we really started making a conscious effort to be more empathetic with our kids. What happened was really beautiful. My sister had a situation come up where her son was heartbroken about being left out of a sleepover. Instead of saying too bad you'll be okay, she said, "I'm so sorry you are feeling sad," and then she went on to tell him about a similar story that happened to her when she was little. It was music to my ears. I tried it a couple of times with examples the author used like when kids whine for a glass of water tell them I wish I could give you a huge glass right now. I was skeptical, but when my daughter fell apart after a bracelet broke I responded by saying, "I'm so sorry your bracelet broke, if I could right now I would get you a new bracelet." Immediately she stopped crying and smiled. I was shocked. I followed up by saying, "No, I'd get you 5, no 10 bracelets," then laughter. I never had to get her a new bracelet, that was not the point. She just wanted to be heard and understood. This truly feels like the right thing to do. Even if you just read these chapters it will give you such a wonderful guide. So many times as a parent it is difficult for me to figure out what to do. This felt as close to how God would want me to parent that I can only hope that I can continue to keep it up. Even better this is all backed by scientific research.
Another chapter included a lot about how a happy marriage creates a happy baby. This seems so obvious, but it was interesting to read all the research that backed this one up. A big thanks to my Mom and Dad for loving each other so much during those formative years!
Other topics that I really enjoyed were: praising effort, not achievement, talking a lot with your kids about their emotions, more on the Tools of the Mind preschool, and the chapters on raising a moral child were amazing. It seems like the topic of raising moral kids doesn't get as much attention as it should.
If you have read, Nurture Shock you will notice a couple of similarities with this book including the praise chapter, and the Tools of the Mind sections. This book for me was so much more helpful on a practical level, and again is all backed by science.
Since I am right in the middle of breast-feeding baby #4 the section on nursing was just the boost I needed. One of my favorite quotes, "If America knew what breast milk can do for the brains of its youngest citizens, lactating mothers across the nation would be enshrined, not embarrassed." Another big thank you!
I could go on and on, but this review is already to long! Go grab this book, you won't be disappointed.
December 6, 2011
This book should be required reading for anyone who's expecting or has a child under age 5. Plain and simple, this is the best collection of parenting advice I can imagine, because it's completely research-based. You don't worry that it's just a bunch of tips from parents who had easy babies and so anything happened to work, because Medina's a brain scientist, not just some parent. He's also a brain scientist who actually uses what he knows about the brain to make the book interesting and easy to read, complete with summary cheat sheets at the end for the sleep-deprived audience who's likely to want to read it.
He starts out with pregnancy. What can a pregnant mom do that, statistically speaking, will actually help her child. Throw out the "preggophones" and the Baby Mozart, but do take folic acid and Omega-3 supplements. My favorite brain rule? Stressed mom = stressed baby, with the prescription for moms of, "Get more pedicures."
Next he talks about marriage -- specifically, techniques you can practice while pregnant that will help ease the transition to sleeplessness and being completely at the beck and call of a screaming infant. (He also acknowledges that more and more babies are being born into different kinds of familes, but since most of the research has been done on that case, that's the advice he gives out. :) ) Since 80% of couples report a drop in marital satisfaction after the birth of the first baby, and 70% of issues are unresolvable, the most important thing couples can do is learn to empathize.
Finally, most of the book is the kind of parenting advice that we all want to know but may forget in the craziness of trying to get baby to PLEASE just sleep for THREE hours that's all I want is that too much to ask?! You won't find anything in here about what kind of diapers to buy or how to get your baby to sleep (sorry). You will find tons of research on what kind of parenting produces kids who are happy, well-adjusted, and maximizing their intellectual potential. Turns out that while there are lots of practical suggestions, in essence they boil down to teaching your kids emotional competence (yes, even to make them smart). Turn off the TV before age 2. Practice empathy and emotional coaching. Encourage imaginative play. Some stuff that seems obvious and some research that boggles the mind.
I plan to give this book to every expectant parent I know.
(Note: I was in the position to read both the hardback and Kindle version, and I was quite disappointed with the latter. I would say in the Kindle version, fully 30% of closing quotation marks were missing, along with numerous other typos that weren't present in the printed version. I admit to ignorance as to how Kindle versions are produced, but I'm surprised that they differed so drastically.)
He starts out with pregnancy. What can a pregnant mom do that, statistically speaking, will actually help her child. Throw out the "preggophones" and the Baby Mozart, but do take folic acid and Omega-3 supplements. My favorite brain rule? Stressed mom = stressed baby, with the prescription for moms of, "Get more pedicures."
Next he talks about marriage -- specifically, techniques you can practice while pregnant that will help ease the transition to sleeplessness and being completely at the beck and call of a screaming infant. (He also acknowledges that more and more babies are being born into different kinds of familes, but since most of the research has been done on that case, that's the advice he gives out. :) ) Since 80% of couples report a drop in marital satisfaction after the birth of the first baby, and 70% of issues are unresolvable, the most important thing couples can do is learn to empathize.
Finally, most of the book is the kind of parenting advice that we all want to know but may forget in the craziness of trying to get baby to PLEASE just sleep for THREE hours that's all I want is that too much to ask?! You won't find anything in here about what kind of diapers to buy or how to get your baby to sleep (sorry). You will find tons of research on what kind of parenting produces kids who are happy, well-adjusted, and maximizing their intellectual potential. Turns out that while there are lots of practical suggestions, in essence they boil down to teaching your kids emotional competence (yes, even to make them smart). Turn off the TV before age 2. Practice empathy and emotional coaching. Encourage imaginative play. Some stuff that seems obvious and some research that boggles the mind.
I plan to give this book to every expectant parent I know.
(Note: I was in the position to read both the hardback and Kindle version, and I was quite disappointed with the latter. I would say in the Kindle version, fully 30% of closing quotation marks were missing, along with numerous other typos that weren't present in the printed version. I admit to ignorance as to how Kindle versions are produced, but I'm surprised that they differed so drastically.)
July 29, 2019
A super informative and quite fun read for lost, soon to be first time parents like me.
I appreciate the authors (a developmental molecular biologist) punchy, straight to the point style, and found the personal anecdotes amusing and worthwhile. It won't work for everyone. (I may have liked it more as I listened to the audio version that is read by the author and liked his voice and pacing).
Crystal clear on what science does say, does not say, and what we are unsure of. Opinions always stated as such. Structured well, containing facts, practical advise, and a good touch of reassuring wisdom. Links to ongoing debates through active, well referenced websites.
A bit US focused in parts, but I won't hold it against the work ;)
I appreciate the authors (a developmental molecular biologist) punchy, straight to the point style, and found the personal anecdotes amusing and worthwhile. It won't work for everyone. (I may have liked it more as I listened to the audio version that is read by the author and liked his voice and pacing).
Crystal clear on what science does say, does not say, and what we are unsure of. Opinions always stated as such. Structured well, containing facts, practical advise, and a good touch of reassuring wisdom. Links to ongoing debates through active, well referenced websites.
A bit US focused in parts, but I won't hold it against the work ;)
November 7, 2017
This book really pissed me off. His tone was really condescending and he overly simplified research. His section on breast feeding was incredibly shaming for women who can't/don't want to breast feed and ignored a multitude of research that says it's not that big a contributor to intelligence. I did enjoy the section on screen time, my partner and I had a good talk based on that. I would skip this book.
September 9, 2018
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- Номын сүүл хэсэгт зохиолч өөрийнхөө 2 хүү дээрээ хэрэгжүүлэн, үр дүнд хүрсэн практик зөвлөгөөнүүдийг бичсэн.
Номын агуулгын талаар гэвэл ухаалаг бас аз жаргалтай хүүхэд өсгөхийн тулд та хүүхдийнхээ тархинд хэрхэн нөлөөлж болох вэ? Номоо эргэж сөхөж харалгүй яг надад тод үлдсэн хэсгүүдээ бичье.
- Жирэмсэн байх хугацаандаа тогтмол дасгал хөдөлгөөн хийх болон тогтмол жин нэмэх.
- Жирэмсний хордлоготой эхчүүдийн хүүхдүүд илүү өндөр IQ-тэй байх магадлалтай. Огиулах нь үнэхээр муухай ч бас баярлах шалтгаантай л юм байна.
- Хамгийн түрүүнд хүүхэд аюулгүй гэдгээ мэдрэх ёстой. Тэгэж байж тархи мэдрэлийн холбоосуудаа хамаг сайнаараа хийх болно.
- Хүүхдээ хөхөөрөө хооллох нь тархины хөгжилд маш их нөлөөтэй.
- Аавуудад хөхөөрөө хооллож хүүхдийнхээ тархины хөгжилд хувь нэмрээ оруулах боломж байхгүй ч ээжийг нь хайрлаж, халамжилан гэр бүлээ халуун дулаан байлгаснаар хөхөөр хооллохоос ч дутхааргүй нөлөөтэй гэж мэд. (Нялх хүүхэд эцэг эх нь таарамжгүй байгааг зөнгөөрөө мэдэрдэг. Тиймээс айдаст автаж тархины хөгжилд саад болно.)
- Хүүхдээ төрсөн цагаас нь эхлэн боломж л гарвал яриад бай. Алхам тутмаа тайлбарлаж, дүрсэлж хэл.
- Хүн угийн нийгмээс тусгаарлагдаж амьдрах боломжгүй учраас аз жаргалтай хүүхэдтэй болохын тулд хүүхдээ багаас нь бусдыг ойлгох чин сэтгэлд сургах хэрэгтэй. Ингэхийн тулд та өөрөө хүүхдийнхээ мэдрэмж, сэтгэл хөдлөлийг ойлгож ярилцдаг байх учиртай. Ойлгогдсон хүн л бусдыг ойлгоно гэж номон дээр товч бөгөөд тодорхой бичсэн байна лээ.
- Сэтгэл хөдлөлөө удирдаж сурсан хүүхэд хичээл сурлага, гэр бүл, найз нөхөд гээд бүх зүйл дээр амжилт үзүүлдэг.
- Тоглоомууд нь үнэтэй тоглоом байх огт хэрэггүй. Том цаасан хайрцаг, өнгийн харандаанууд тэгээд өөрөө юу хийхээ мэдэг.
- Мөн ёс суртахуунтай хүүхэд өсгөхийн тулд урамшуулал, шийтгэлийг хэрхэн зохицуулах талаар маш тодорхой тайлбарласан.
За тэгэхээр ухаантай, аз жаргалтай хүүхэд өсгөхийн тулд их мөнгө хэрэггүй байх нь ээ. Таниас чин сэтгэл, цаг хугацаа бас тэвчээр шаардах болно. Эцэст нь ямар ч эргэлзээгүй энэ номыг авч уншихыг зөвлөе.
Би ихэнхдээ уран зохиолын бус ном уншихдаа ойлгох гэж зарим нэг хэсгийг их удаанаар, дахин дахин уншдаг л даа. Харин энэ номыг би яг л адал явдал өрнөлтэй зохиолын ном уншиж байгаа мэт амтанд нь орж уншиж дуусгалаа. Яагаад гэсэн асуултад дараах хариултуудыг өгье.
- Ном их хөгжилтэй шогч байдлаар бичигдсэн.
- Дараа дараагийн сэдэв рүү орохдоо их гоё холбогдсон шиг санагдсан. (намуухан хөврөөд л байна, ямар ч огцом огцом хазайсан сэдэв байхгүй)
- Нэг бүтэн сэдэв бүрийн төгсгөлд “Түлхүүр үгс” гээд гол санаануудыг жагсаан бичсэн байсан. Номнууд ер нь ийм байвал их үр дүнтэй санагдсан.
- Уг номыг бичсэн хүн нь өөрөө мэргэжлийн тархины судлаач учраас хэдэн арван жил үргэлжилж маш их хөрөнгө шаардсан судалгааны үр дүнгүүдийг номондоо ду��дах бөгөөд ном нь бүхэлдээ гайхалтай шинжлэх ухаанч. Гэхдээ шинжлэх ухаанч гээд толгой эргүүлсэн нэр томъёо огт байхгүй. Зохиолч маань өөрөө тархи судлаач учраас энгийн хүнд энэ бүх чухал мэдээллийг яаж хүргэхээ сайн мэддэг нэгэн.
- Номын сүүл хэсэгт зохиолч өөрийнхөө 2 хүү дээрээ хэрэгжүүлэн, үр дүнд хүрсэн практик зөвлөгөөнүүдийг бичсэн.
Номын агуулгын талаар гэвэл ухаалаг бас аз жаргалтай хүүхэд өсгөхийн тулд та хүүхдийнхээ тархинд хэрхэн нөлөөлж болох вэ? Номоо эргэж сөхөж харалгүй яг надад тод үлдсэн хэсгүүдээ бичье.
- Жирэмсэн байх хугацаандаа тогтмол дасгал хөдөлгөөн хийх болон тогтмол жин нэмэх.
- Жирэмсний хордлоготой эхчүүдийн хүүхдүүд илүү өндөр IQ-тэй байх магадлалтай. Огиулах нь үнэхээр муухай ч бас баярлах шалтгаантай л юм байна.
- Хамгийн түрүүнд хүүхэд аюулгүй гэдгээ мэдрэх ёстой. Тэгэж байж тархи мэдрэлийн холбоосуудаа хамаг сайнаараа хийх болно.
- Хүүхдээ хөхөөрөө хооллох нь тархины хөгжилд маш их нөлөөтэй.
- Аавуудад хөхөөрөө хооллож хүүхдийнхээ тархины хөгжилд хувь нэмрээ оруулах боломж байхгүй ч ээжийг нь хайрлаж, халамжилан гэр бүлээ халуун дулаан байлгаснаар хөхөөр хооллохоос ч дутхааргүй нөлөөтэй гэж мэд. (Нялх хүүхэд эцэг эх нь таарамжгүй байгааг зөнгөөрөө мэдэрдэг. Тиймээс айдаст автаж тархины хөгжилд саад болно.)
- Хүүхдээ төрсөн цагаас нь эхлэн боломж л гарвал яриад бай. Алхам тутмаа тайлбарлаж, дүрсэлж хэл.
- Хүн угийн нийгмээс тусгаарлагдаж амьдрах боломжгүй учраас аз жаргалтай хүүхэдтэй болохын тулд хүүхдээ багаас нь бусдыг ойлгох чин сэтгэлд сургах хэрэгтэй. Ингэхийн тулд та өөрөө хүүхдийнхээ мэдрэмж, сэтгэл хөдлөлийг ойлгож ярилцдаг байх учиртай. Ойлгогдсон хүн л бусдыг ойлгоно гэж номон дээр товч бөгөөд тодорхой бичсэн байна лээ.
- Сэтгэл хөдлөлөө удирдаж сурсан хүүхэд хичээл сурлага, гэр бүл, найз нөхөд гээд бүх зүйл дээр амжилт үзүүлдэг.
- Тоглоомууд нь үнэтэй тоглоом байх огт хэрэггүй. Том цаасан хайрцаг, өнгийн харандаанууд тэгээд өөрөө юу хийхээ мэдэг.
- Мөн ёс суртахуунтай хүүхэд өсгөхийн тулд урамшуулал, шийтгэлийг хэрхэн зохицуулах талаар маш тодорхой тайлбарласан.
За тэгэхээр ухаантай, аз жаргалтай хүүхэд өсгөхийн тулд их мөнгө хэрэггүй байх нь ээ. Таниас чин сэтгэл, цаг хугацаа бас тэвчээр шаардах болно. Эцэст нь ямар ч эргэлзээгүй энэ номыг авч уншихыг зөвлөе.
September 22, 2011
Once others find out that you're having a baby, you can expect to be bombarded with the same question ad nauseum: "Are you excited?" Stupid question really (assuming you were trying to conceive in the first place). However, my standard, and most honest answer was "I'm excited to be excited" since there's really no immediate change and it certainly doesn't sink in right away.
As corny as it may sound, after reading this book my answer will now be "Yes, I am excited." The author does a wonderful job (for the most part) of establishing just the right tone: neither condescending and pretentiously academic, nor too kitschy and dumbed down. Backed in neuro science and numerous professional studies, his advice is logical and tested. Even the obvious stuff, like "pay attention to your kid" didn't just make me write "No shit" in the margins because the actual science behind it is explained.
The latter half of the book, though, did get more and more "touchy feely." Apparently teaching empathy is one of the most important things to do, so I guess the mawkish shift was to be expected. Also, the author just has a really strange need to include irrelevant descriptive details about the scientists whose experiments he describes: "a crusty, wild haired old philosopher" (99) or "a handsome polymath" (135). Finally, there are times when explaining neuroscience via kitchen metaphor work well...there are also times it does not and the two paragraph aside about Bobby Flay ("has red hair and a New York accent" [199]) are completely unnecessary.
Overall, though, reading this book made me excited to be a soon-to-be-dad!
As corny as it may sound, after reading this book my answer will now be "Yes, I am excited." The author does a wonderful job (for the most part) of establishing just the right tone: neither condescending and pretentiously academic, nor too kitschy and dumbed down. Backed in neuro science and numerous professional studies, his advice is logical and tested. Even the obvious stuff, like "pay attention to your kid" didn't just make me write "No shit" in the margins because the actual science behind it is explained.
The latter half of the book, though, did get more and more "touchy feely." Apparently teaching empathy is one of the most important things to do, so I guess the mawkish shift was to be expected. Also, the author just has a really strange need to include irrelevant descriptive details about the scientists whose experiments he describes: "a crusty, wild haired old philosopher" (99) or "a handsome polymath" (135). Finally, there are times when explaining neuroscience via kitchen metaphor work well...there are also times it does not and the two paragraph aside about Bobby Flay ("has red hair and a New York accent" [199]) are completely unnecessary.
Overall, though, reading this book made me excited to be a soon-to-be-dad!
February 24, 2015
This was a good read. Essentially there is very little correlation between the standard IQ test and a person's sucess and happiness in life. Medina suggests other things that are actually linked to sucess. One of the biggest seems to be emotional IQ. I found his book to be very thoughtful but also practical. I love reading about research but I love it more when I know how to use it! My biggest takeaway is that people who can label their emotions are better at dealing with life and therefore happier and more sucessful people. For example, my 7 year old just had his tonsils out. He threw a fit and cried about taking his medicine. Because I had just read this book I asked him to label how he was feeling in one sentence and I helped him. We decided it was, "I am scared to take my medicine because it might hurt my throat." He immediately calmed down once he had a label for his emotions. Then we talked about the benefit of taking the medicine verses the 2 seconds that it might hurt. We never had a problem with the medicine again all week. It was a great tool. Of course there was much much more to the book (understanding verbal communication, learning nonverbal cues, learning self control, having empathy for others and running toward emotions).
August 1, 2016
This book is so rich and full of information that anyone can benefit from. I didn't want it to finish. Very simple to follow and understand for someone who's not very familiar with neurotechnology. I understand that raising a child is much more complex than some data in a two dimensional book, but you'd still want to know the key elements that actually matter. It makes me want to buy copies of this and give it to anyone I know who's considering having kids. Lol
December 1, 2015
5 stars for the sheer amount of information I came away with. I've never made so many notes in a book before. Medina is a developmental molecular biologist who navigates the research on the brain and behavioral development of children. The big themes of the book boil down to paying attention to your kid's emotions and responding with empathy.
November 10, 2021
I thought the science in this was fascinating but it was overshadowed for me by some of the more judgmental and patronizing comments about weight issues (i.e. using Kirstie Alley's fluctuating weight as a metaphor for variance over time) and other such topics including breast feeding, childhood obesity, and anxiety.
December 10, 2023
Книжка розповідає, як виховати розумну і щасливу дитину від нуля до 5 років. Тому мені частково вже ніби й запізно було її читати. Але я ні разу не пошкодувала, що взялася за неї. Шкодувала тільки, що вона не потрапила до мене 6 років тому і що Джон Медіна написав так мало. Зараз наш ринок добре заповнений усілякими порадниками для батьків, є книжки про складні питання дітей, про те, чи можна їм мультики, про правила для супер батьків, мотивацію, ігри, навчання, стосунки з родичами, спілкування. І я знаю, що ті, хто прочитав хоча б дві книжки, не хочуть читати інших, бо думають, що вони всі про одне і те ж, а допомагають мало. Всі описують ідеал, до якого треба прагнути, а як – мовчок, от просто прагніть, і все вийде, просто робіть все правильно. Тому якщо ви думаєте, що «Правила мозку» – одна з таких книжечок в жанрі популярної психології, то це не так. В книжці нема пустопорожнього бла-бла-бла, ніякої водички, ніяких «просто робіть так, і буде вам щастя». Зате є наукові факти, що спираються на реальні багаторічні дослідження. Є чесне зізнання, що на 100 % передбачити і забезпечити нічого не можна, бо це мозок. І є дуже багато підтримки для батьків. Коли читаєш першу половину книжки, то здається, її нема, але потім все стає на свої місця.
November 28, 2018
As artsy as I may come across, what I really want to know is the science behind it. And a parenting book written and narrated on Audible by a molecular biologist is exactly what I was looking for. This is really only a cursory, introductory review as after listening to the audiobook of it, I thought about it so much over the proceeding first four months of my child's life, that I went ahead and bought the physical copy too and plan to reread it often for the next several years.
What I think I like best about it to begin though is that John Medina is not heavy-handed in most of his recommendations recognizing that yes, every child is different. That being said, in the areas where he is stern, I think you should really listen to him as he has studied the fuck out of this stuff and while every child is different there are some natural laws (e.g. humanity's social desires) that should always be respected and then there are some other obvious pitfalls (e.g. screentime) that should be conscientiously avoided.
I will reiterate that my parenting experience is brief so maybe in 5 years I will have knocked this book down a peg or two but I seriously doubt that, so even if you're not a parent or planning on becoming one, I'd say you could read this just to better understand humans.
What I think I like best about it to begin though is that John Medina is not heavy-handed in most of his recommendations recognizing that yes, every child is different. That being said, in the areas where he is stern, I think you should really listen to him as he has studied the fuck out of this stuff and while every child is different there are some natural laws (e.g. humanity's social desires) that should always be respected and then there are some other obvious pitfalls (e.g. screentime) that should be conscientiously avoided.
I will reiterate that my parenting experience is brief so maybe in 5 years I will have knocked this book down a peg or two but I seriously doubt that, so even if you're not a parent or planning on becoming one, I'd say you could read this just to better understand humans.
July 11, 2022
Provavelmente o melhor livro relacionado a educação de crianças que encontrei até agora, com embasamento científico e discussões que unem harmoniosamente teoria e prática, além de ser bem fácil de ler e abrangente quanto aos diferentes tipos de parentalidade que existem, reconhecendo, a todo momento, que tudo deve ser analisado dentro do contexto de cada família. Traz, ainda, muitas reflexões sobre como a formação que tivemos na nossa primeira infância impacta diretamente a pessoa que somos hoje, então você pode acabar pegando esse livro para saber como educar melhor uma criança do seu convívio e acabar descobrindo coisas sobre você mesmo e sobre o motivo de ser como é, seja nas áreas da vida em que você se sai melhor, seja nas mais "defeituosas".
Outro ponto forte é que a maioria dos livros do estilo "how to" é bem repetitiva, o que não é o caso desse aqui, que a cada capítulo realmente traz informações novas e pertinentes ao invés de apenas reescrever os capítulos anteriores ou girar em torno do mesmíssimo tópico de discussão.
Enfim, um bom livro não só para quem é/vai ser pai, como também para os que se interessam pelo desenvolvimento cognitivo infantil e para educadores de modo geral.
Outro ponto forte é que a maioria dos livros do estilo "how to" é bem repetitiva, o que não é o caso desse aqui, que a cada capítulo realmente traz informações novas e pertinentes ao invés de apenas reescrever os capítulos anteriores ou girar em torno do mesmíssimo tópico de discussão.
Enfim, um bom livro não só para quem é/vai ser pai, como também para os que se interessam pelo desenvolvimento cognitivo infantil e para educadores de modo geral.
November 8, 2017
день захисту дітей - чудовий привід розповісти вам про книжку, яка змінила моє уявлення про дітей та людину як біологічну істоту загалом.
її автор - Джон Медіна - молекулярний біолог-еволюціоніст, який досліджує гени, що беруть участь у розвитку мозку. як батька двох дітей його завжди цікавило, як вивчення мозку може вплинути на методику навчання, і саме в цій книзі він ділиться набутим досвідом.
якщо ви тільки плануєте стати батьками - ця книга 100% стане вам у нагоді. коли ще ненароджене маля почне вас чути, розрізняти смаки, чи потрібно слухати Моцарта мамі і прикладати навушники до живота - суто науковими фактами Медіна розвінчує міфи та підтверджує здогади.
якщо у вас вже є дитина - вам буде цікаво дізнатись про те, чому вона розвивається саме так. а якщо діти у вас вже зовсім дорослі - ви як мінімум пізнаєте себе і свій мозок.
написана легко, переклад чудовий, і хочеться попросити @nashformat.ua видавати подібні книги частіше💙
її автор - Джон Медіна - молекулярний біолог-еволюціоніст, який досліджує гени, що беруть участь у розвитку мозку. як батька двох дітей його завжди цікавило, як вивчення мозку може вплинути на методику навчання, і саме в цій книзі він ділиться набутим досвідом.
якщо ви тільки плануєте стати батьками - ця книга 100% стане вам у нагоді. коли ще ненароджене маля почне вас чути, розрізняти смаки, чи потрібно слухати Моцарта мамі і прикладати навушники до живота - суто науковими фактами Медіна розвінчує міфи та підтверджує здогади.
якщо у вас вже є дитина - вам буде цікаво дізнатись про те, чому вона розвивається саме так. а якщо діти у вас вже зовсім дорослі - ви як мінімум пізнаєте себе і свій мозок.
написана легко, переклад чудовий, і хочеться попросити @nashformat.ua видавати подібні книги частіше💙
February 9, 2020
انتظار حرف های تکنیکال تری داشتم ولی خب بازهم به نسبت بد نبود.
چنتا نکته ی جالب ازش یاد گرفتم که به نظرم باعث میشه برای من خوندنش بیارزه :
اول اینکه زیادی تشویق کردن بچه با مدل "آفرین چه بچه ی باهوشی" ممکنه باعث بشه که نتونه با شکست درست و به راحتی کنار بیاد، و بهتره که تمرکز روی "پرتلاش" بودن بچه باشه تا هوشش.
دوم اینکه من فک میکردم برای چیزهای کوچیک هم باید به شدت تشویقش کنم، غافل ازینکه تشویق زیادی و نامتناسب با تلاش بچه باعث میشه که از پتانسیلش استفاده نکنه و یه جورایی با خودش فکر کنه "من که اول آخر همونقدر تشویق میشم. چه کاریه به خودم زحمت بدم؟"
(نکات بعدی یه کم ریزتر و شخصی ترن و شاید به درد بقیه نخورن.)
چنتا نکته ی جالب ازش یاد گرفتم که به نظرم باعث میشه برای من خوندنش بیارزه :
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دوم اینکه من فک میکردم برای چیزهای کوچیک هم باید به شدت تشویقش کنم، غافل ازینکه تشویق زیادی و نامتناسب با تلاش بچه باعث میشه که از پتانسیلش استفاده نکنه و یه جورایی با خودش فکر کنه "من که اول آخر همونقدر تشویق میشم. چه کاریه به خودم زحمت بدم؟"
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February 2, 2024
Изключително полезна информация по много и различни направления, събрана в една наглед малка книжка. Разбива много митове. Препоръчвам обаче да се прочете още в началото на бременността. Считам за една от най-полезните книги, които съм чела по темите за родителството.
December 6, 2016
В книзі є багато цікавої супутньої інформації. Всі твердження підкріплені результатами досліджень. Однозначно цікаве і корисне чтиво.
Ось кілька тез із книги
Розумна дитина - убезпечена дитина. "Мозок бадужий до навчання, йому залежить на виживанні"
4 потрібні інгредієнти розвитку мозку:
1- грудне вигодовування протягом року.
Молоко містить інгредієнти, які мозок дитини потребує для росту після народження, але самостійно виробити не може. Один із них - таурин, незамінна для розвитку нервової системи амінокислота. Грудне молоко також містить Омега-3 жирні кислоти, ию користь обговорено в розділі про вагітність"
2- Багато говоріть із вашою дитиною
"Діти, з якими батьки позитивно, багато і регулярно розмовляли, знали вдвічі більше слів ніж їхні ровесники обділені батьківською увагою"
Протягом 40 років було досліджено понад 40 сімей, і згідно результатів можна зробити висновки:
- різноманітність і кількість слів має значення
- розмова підвищує IQ
3) Ура грі
Дослідження показують, що діти яким давали час на невимушені ігри без правил, у порівнянні з контрольною групою
- більш творчі..
- здібніші до мови
- спритніші в розвязанні проблем
- стійкіші до стресу
- мають кращу пам'ять
- мають кращі соціальні навички
4) Заохочуйте зусилля а не IQ
замість "ти такий розумний" кажіть "ти добре попрацював!"
Діти, зусилля яких заохочують, успішно розв'язують на 50-60%більше складних математичних завдань, ніж діти , яких хвалять за інтелект
Секрет щастя
"Єдине, що справді має значення в житті - це ваші взаємини з іншими людьми"
Ось кілька тез із книги
Розумна дитина - убезпечена дитина. "Мозок бадужий до навчання, йому залежить на виживанні"
4 потрібні інгредієнти розвитку мозку:
1- грудне вигодовування протягом року.
Молоко містить інгредієнти, які мозок дитини потребує для росту після народження, але самостійно виробити не може. Один із них - таурин, незамінна для розвитку нервової системи амінокислота. Грудне молоко також містить Омега-3 жирні кислоти, ию користь обговорено в розділі про вагітність"
2- Багато говоріть із вашою дитиною
"Діти, з якими батьки позитивно, багато і регулярно розмовляли, знали вдвічі більше слів ніж їхні ровесники обділені батьківською увагою"
Протягом 40 років було досліджено понад 40 сімей, і згідно результатів можна зробити висновки:
- різноманітність і кількість слів має значення
- розмова підвищує IQ
3) Ура грі
Дослідження показують, що діти яким давали час на невимушені ігри без правил, у порівнянні з контрольною групою
- більш творчі..
- здібніші до мови
- спритніші в розвязанні проблем
- стійкіші до стресу
- мають кращу пам'ять
- мають кращі соціальні навички
4) Заохочуйте зусилля а не IQ
замість "ти такий розумний" кажіть "ти добре попрацював!"
Діти, зусилля яких заохочують, успішно розв'язують на 50-60%більше складних математичних завдань, ніж діти , яких хвалять за інтелект
Секрет щастя
"Єдине, що справді має значення в житті - це ваші взаємини з іншими людьми"
July 24, 2017
Мені сподобалися усі ідеї і теми, що підняті у цій книжці. Правда, сподівалася, що сама вона набагато товстіша і об'ємніша. 😊 Але матеріалу для роздумів вистарчає.
Враховуючи виховання мене батьками - деякі речі для мене виявилися очевидними, просто набули більш структурованого та практичного змісту.
Деякі моменти, що відразу запали у пам'ять:
✔️ Щаслива дитина = розумна дитина = вимогливість + чуйність
✔️ Ніякого телебачення до 2 років
✔️ Відеоігри самі по собі не впливають негативно на мозок - вони змушують дитину менше рухатися, що вже в свою чергу має шкідливий вплив на розумову діяльність. Тому більше руху!
✔️ Дві тонни емпатії. Потрібно вміти розпізнавати і пройматися почуттями дитини
✔️ Покарання за погану поведінку лише тоді ефективне, коли воно негайне з одночасним поясненням, в чому дитина виявилася не права
✔️ Правила поведінки повинні бути чіткі і зрозумілі
✔️ Під час вагітності основне - здорове харчування, нормальний набір ваги, уникання стресів і фізичні вправи
А також багато-багато іншого. Просто не мала можливості читати з олівцем, щоб попідкреслювати. 😊
Враховуючи виховання мене батьками - деякі речі для мене виявилися очевидними, просто набули більш структурованого та практичного змісту.
Деякі моменти, що відразу запали у пам'ять:
✔️ Щаслива дитина = розумна дитина = вимогливість + чуйність
✔️ Ніякого телебачення до 2 років
✔️ Відеоігри самі по собі не впливають негативно на мозок - вони змушують дитину менше рухатися, що вже в свою чергу має шкідливий вплив на розумову діяльність. Тому більше руху!
✔️ Дві тонни емпатії. Потрібно вміти розпізнавати і пройматися почуттями дитини
✔️ Покарання за погану поведінку лише тоді ефективне, коли воно негайне з одночасним поясненням, в чому дитина виявилася не права
✔️ Правила поведінки повинні бути чіткі і зрозумілі
✔️ Під час вагітності основне - здорове харчування, нормальний набір ваги, уникання стресів і фізичні вправи
А також багато-багато іншого. Просто не мала можливості читати з олівцем, щоб попідкреслювати. 😊
June 2, 2012
This book had a lot of useful information, quite a bit of which has been included in other books I've read but I still found it an interesting read.
Bullet point ideas/thoughts that are completely disjointed because that's all I have in me right now:
*Praise effort more than intelligence
*Think about how to best help friends with a new baby-it's too easy to become isolated, which when you combine with severe sleep deprivation and total exhaustion, is not healthy
*Talk talk talk to the baby
*Integrate more music in our kids' lives-how do people afford piano/guitar/other music lessons?
*I want to read John Gottman's Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child and find a biography on Roosevelt to read as well
*Remember to use rationale with explicit commands-we're pretty good at this but not all the time
Bullet point ideas/thoughts that are completely disjointed because that's all I have in me right now:
*Praise effort more than intelligence
*Think about how to best help friends with a new baby-it's too easy to become isolated, which when you combine with severe sleep deprivation and total exhaustion, is not healthy
*Talk talk talk to the baby
*Integrate more music in our kids' lives-how do people afford piano/guitar/other music lessons?
*I want to read John Gottman's Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child and find a biography on Roosevelt to read as well
*Remember to use rationale with explicit commands-we're pretty good at this but not all the time
November 27, 2018
This book basically explains how to raise a smart, happy, moral child. It's all based on research and studies that have been retested and have large enough sample sizes etc. He explains the research in down to earth language. A lot of it I learned in my child development classes and it just makes natural sense.
One thing I learned is I don't need to play Motzart to my baby in the womb to make him smarter. 😜
One thing I learned is I don't need to play Motzart to my baby in the womb to make him smarter. 😜
December 4, 2023
Įdomi knyga, tik gal kiek sudėtinga dėl daugybės mokslinių detalių. Skaičiau apie pusę nuosekliai ir toliau jau probėgšmiais. Gal kada ateityje pasiimsiu perskaityti vėl.
Antras skaitymas. Šį kartą skaičiau lengviau ir labai patiko autoriaus humoras ir pavyzdžiai, pasijuokiau nemažai. Ir svarbias temas liečia, ne tik mažyliam, bet dalis ir suaugusiems tinkama. Verta dėmesio, o gal ir vietos savo bibliotekoje.
Antras skaitymas. Šį kartą skaičiau lengviau ir labai patiko autoriaus humoras ir pavyzdžiai, pasijuokiau nemažai. Ir svarbias temas liečia, ne tik mažyliam, bet dalis ir suaugusiems tinkama. Verta dėmesio, o gal ir vietos savo bibliotekoje.
October 30, 2022
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October 31, 2017
I love love this book, its funny and informative. The best thing about it that its scientific but you actually enjoy listening to it. The author is brilliant and the writing is fantastic.
January 3, 2018
4.5 stars. A book written by a brain scientist describing indicators of your child’s happiness and what you can do about. A lot of Medina’s advice for baby and parents is about empathy.
February 1, 2021
Not sure if that was "Hot to raise a kid" or "Analyse how you were raised", cause I've been doing mainly the latter lol.
This book is thoroughly enjoyable and I would go as far as to say that it really doesn't matter if you're expecting a baby. Just get it and read it. It is brilliantly curious and helpful.
I think I got more tips on how to be a better person, friend and husband and also on how to connect and communicate superior way. Literally the baby stuff was secondary to me.
I constantly made parallel with my upbringing and which methods shaped me. Or which methods worked well and the ones which did quite the opposite. I got explanation on the times my relationship with a family member fell out or how it could be repaired. It was easy to relate to the whole content.
The thing I most loved about this book was that science and nature made a perfect match. The things science knew and John Medina quoted were in perfect balance with the logical ways of nature. I will keep with me the quote on "Asking him: how do I get my son in Harvard? - Answer: Do you wanna know, do you really wanna know?! Well, go home and love your wife".
It makes sense doesn't it. And not only that but ain't that why you are having this kid anyway? That's what I mean by nature and science being in balance. The kid should (imo) be the product of your love with someone and that same love is the best nutrition for the kid. It goes a long way.
Now off to start re-reading it on paper as I listened to that one, but need to go over it a few more times for the concepts to get well instilled.
This book is thoroughly enjoyable and I would go as far as to say that it really doesn't matter if you're expecting a baby. Just get it and read it. It is brilliantly curious and helpful.
I think I got more tips on how to be a better person, friend and husband and also on how to connect and communicate superior way. Literally the baby stuff was secondary to me.
I constantly made parallel with my upbringing and which methods shaped me. Or which methods worked well and the ones which did quite the opposite. I got explanation on the times my relationship with a family member fell out or how it could be repaired. It was easy to relate to the whole content.
The thing I most loved about this book was that science and nature made a perfect match. The things science knew and John Medina quoted were in perfect balance with the logical ways of nature. I will keep with me the quote on "Asking him: how do I get my son in Harvard? - Answer: Do you wanna know, do you really wanna know?! Well, go home and love your wife".
It makes sense doesn't it. And not only that but ain't that why you are having this kid anyway? That's what I mean by nature and science being in balance. The kid should (imo) be the product of your love with someone and that same love is the best nutrition for the kid. It goes a long way.
Now off to start re-reading it on paper as I listened to that one, but need to go over it a few more times for the concepts to get well instilled.
September 21, 2020
Very recommended! I think the best time to read is while you are expecting, although better later than never
June 7, 2021
One of my favorite parenting books to date! I took many practical and research based tips away from this book and it really challenged me in a lot of ways- particularly on info/view of emotional health and how it related to happiness and how to foster emotional health in my children. The author is a scientist who studies human brain development. Some chapters of science heavy, but overall very easy to understand! Would recommend for anyone with kids age 0-5
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