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I CAN MEND YOUR BROKEN
Almost everyone, at one time or another, is affected by a broken heart. But how can we cope with this most personal of traumas?
Here, world-famous hypnotist Paul McKenna and psychotherapist Dr. Hugh Willbourn show the reader how to cope with the grief which can accompany the break-up of a relationship. How to Mend Your Broken Heart is packed with simple, highly effective, practical techniques which will make you feel better fast, and bring about lasting change.
Understand emotional healing, make crucial connections between key events in relationships and achieve a new understanding of love, change bad habits and eliminate destructive emotional patterns, open the door to a new love.
Follow the programme, as outlined in the book, and you will not only mend your broken heart but you will be on your way to achieving success in every loving relationship!
Here, world-famous hypnotist Paul McKenna and psychotherapist Dr. Hugh Willbourn show the reader how to cope with the grief which can accompany the break-up of a relationship. How to Mend Your Broken Heart is packed with simple, highly effective, practical techniques which will make you feel better fast, and bring about lasting change.
Understand emotional healing, make crucial connections between key events in relationships and achieve a new understanding of love, change bad habits and eliminate destructive emotional patterns, open the door to a new love.
Follow the programme, as outlined in the book, and you will not only mend your broken heart but you will be on your way to achieving success in every loving relationship!
172 pages, Paperback
First published December 4, 2006
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April 10, 2019
With this - almost a bit self-aggrandizing - title I had expected anything but a book that is as well rounded and thorough in its different approaches to tackling human heartache as this one.
McKenna draws from neurolinguistic programming, cognitive behavioral therapy, Eastern philosophy and it seems also from dialectical behavioral therapy although I'm not entirely certain that was intentional or not.
In any case, there are a few very interesting exercises in this book such as playing with a mental image in your mind and then altering it or minimizing it in size until it vanishes for example. I wonder how often the average person would have to go through such an exercise until the feelings towards their former partner have actually and lastingly changed though.
But if this does not work right away there are a myriad of other exercises, comforting words and suggestions in the author's book.
It was - oddly enough - an enjoyable read because I got the impression that the techniques McKenna presents can also be used in any other "problematic" or challenging situation, not just a breakup. It might be fun to test this theory out sometime at least!
McKenna draws from neurolinguistic programming, cognitive behavioral therapy, Eastern philosophy and it seems also from dialectical behavioral therapy although I'm not entirely certain that was intentional or not.
In any case, there are a few very interesting exercises in this book such as playing with a mental image in your mind and then altering it or minimizing it in size until it vanishes for example. I wonder how often the average person would have to go through such an exercise until the feelings towards their former partner have actually and lastingly changed though.
But if this does not work right away there are a myriad of other exercises, comforting words and suggestions in the author's book.
It was - oddly enough - an enjoyable read because I got the impression that the techniques McKenna presents can also be used in any other "problematic" or challenging situation, not just a breakup. It might be fun to test this theory out sometime at least!
October 2, 2013
You don't have to be heartbroken to read it.
It's highly recommended for those seeking emotional strength and independence.
It's highly recommended for those seeking emotional strength and independence.
February 1, 2015
The final step is to remember that you have everything to gain from here... Your future starts right now and from this moment on, it’s written by you - no one else! Be as imaginative as you like and dare to dream. Let me know how you get on :))
July 16, 2012
i really like it , its make me feeling in the good way and Positive..
December 17, 2019
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I was recommended this novel due to the grief I am experiencing. My heart is broken after losing my mum. Heartbreak and grief often come hand in hand. My mum meant the world to me. I love her and miss her very much.
This book has a lot of interesting advice, ideas on life and comments on the working of our minds. There are sections which related more to my situation than others. A lot of the book relates to a romantic heartache, yet there were also invaluable sections for me too.
The sections that I will re read and will help me relate to the negative thoughts of regret and blaming oneself for different situations. The sections on self esteem in this book are very helpful and I particularly like the exercises that would be invaluable for everyone.
My favourite quote from this book is 'change yourself on the inside and the outside world changes too'. I believe this to be very true. We have the power to change our thoughts. With yoga and meditation, my thoughts change due to the space I give my mind. Being with family and friends gives us this too.
Thank you Dr McKenna and Dr Willbourn for your book. The emotional pain felt when we grieve is overwhelming and the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. To gain insight from professionals and learn how to help ourselves to grieve in a healthier manner feels important. I think it's important to realise we may grieve for rest of our days... we may cry everyday for our loved ones... but to gain advice and support will help us to live with our grief and come to a point in which we may concentrate on the beautiful memories and feel our loved one is with us always.
You will always be in my heart mum. I love you.
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I was recommended this novel due to the grief I am experiencing. My heart is broken after losing my mum. Heartbreak and grief often come hand in hand. My mum meant the world to me. I love her and miss her very much.
This book has a lot of interesting advice, ideas on life and comments on the working of our minds. There are sections which related more to my situation than others. A lot of the book relates to a romantic heartache, yet there were also invaluable sections for me too.
The sections that I will re read and will help me relate to the negative thoughts of regret and blaming oneself for different situations. The sections on self esteem in this book are very helpful and I particularly like the exercises that would be invaluable for everyone.
My favourite quote from this book is 'change yourself on the inside and the outside world changes too'. I believe this to be very true. We have the power to change our thoughts. With yoga and meditation, my thoughts change due to the space I give my mind. Being with family and friends gives us this too.
Thank you Dr McKenna and Dr Willbourn for your book. The emotional pain felt when we grieve is overwhelming and the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. To gain insight from professionals and learn how to help ourselves to grieve in a healthier manner feels important. I think it's important to realise we may grieve for rest of our days... we may cry everyday for our loved ones... but to gain advice and support will help us to live with our grief and come to a point in which we may concentrate on the beautiful memories and feel our loved one is with us always.
You will always be in my heart mum. I love you.
February 6, 2018
When I first started turning the pages of 'I Can Mend Your Broken Heart' by Paul McKenna, my first thought was 'too wordy, written by someone who likes the sound of his own thoughts on paper.' Something however, compelled me to read on
As I continued reading I realised that the reason I *thought* I didn't like it was because it was basically very uncomfortable reading dealing with subject matter that, let's face it, was going to make me squirm a bit. Just as good therapy does! And that is the key to this book!
'I Can Mend Your Broken Heart' is basically a course of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) to use on yourself. Time and again Paul McKenna discusses 'reframing' negative experiences, changing the way you think, and looking for the reason, the positive intent behind thoughts, actions and feelings. Primarily it is CBT for the broken hearted and focuses on relationships between couples, specifically broken relationships between couples - hence why it makes such uncomfortable reading!
I liked the exercises, although having read this book initially for review, I would now like to spend some time reading through it again more slowly and taking the time I need to explore the ideas further.
I give this book 3.5 stars.
As I continued reading I realised that the reason I *thought* I didn't like it was because it was basically very uncomfortable reading dealing with subject matter that, let's face it, was going to make me squirm a bit. Just as good therapy does! And that is the key to this book!
'I Can Mend Your Broken Heart' is basically a course of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) to use on yourself. Time and again Paul McKenna discusses 'reframing' negative experiences, changing the way you think, and looking for the reason, the positive intent behind thoughts, actions and feelings. Primarily it is CBT for the broken hearted and focuses on relationships between couples, specifically broken relationships between couples - hence why it makes such uncomfortable reading!
I liked the exercises, although having read this book initially for review, I would now like to spend some time reading through it again more slowly and taking the time I need to explore the ideas further.
I give this book 3.5 stars.
January 22, 2018
This book is for those who are extremely diligent. While I do certainly believe in " the power of positive thinking" if you will, I will say that this book over estimates one's ability to control and maneuver our thoughts.
While it does offer helpful exercises and recommends real methods to challenge your thoughts following a break up, I think it doesnt do a good job of addressing how fragile our hearts and minds are right after a breakup. Meaning, our willingness and ability to be do diligent with our thoughts and how we react to things may not be as in tip top shape now as in other times of our lives. With that being said, I recommend this book for a few months post breakup and not immediately after a breakup as the tasks that they suggest (while helpful and realistic) are quite daunting to someone who is just trying to keep their head above water let alone become masters of their own destiny through like, ridiculously hard thought process modifications.
While it does offer helpful exercises and recommends real methods to challenge your thoughts following a break up, I think it doesnt do a good job of addressing how fragile our hearts and minds are right after a breakup. Meaning, our willingness and ability to be do diligent with our thoughts and how we react to things may not be as in tip top shape now as in other times of our lives. With that being said, I recommend this book for a few months post breakup and not immediately after a breakup as the tasks that they suggest (while helpful and realistic) are quite daunting to someone who is just trying to keep their head above water let alone become masters of their own destiny through like, ridiculously hard thought process modifications.
February 17, 2022
This book was recommended to me to help with grief, and there are some interesting parts and pieces. In whole, though, it speaks to relationships. Normally it wouldn't bother me, but many of the suggestions and assumptions that work for an "ex" (whom you'd like to remove from your thoughts, "get over", visualize yourself living happier without) just don't work for a dear father like mine. Again, there are valuable tidbits on emotions, why we have them and what they do, the workings of the brain and the difference between base emotions and higher emotions. For my broken heart, however, there is no mending, and this book missed the mark.
November 13, 2016
I received a DRC from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review of this book. I have been reading multiple self-help type books lately during my healing journey, and this was by far the best. I feel like Paul McKenna addresses the issues much as a good parent or teacher would, being firm but nurturing. There are many practical activities, visualizations, and techniques in the book. I highlighted many of them so that I can go back and do them over again. I also found as I got to the end of the book that there is an Index of Techniques, so that readers can go back and do useful activities again. It was not an easy read, as you really have to face your demons to heal properly, but so valuable and worthwhile. I would recommend this to anyone trying to heal from the end of a relationship. My only criticism is that the book comes with an online code for a free download of supplemental audio material, and it kept coming up invalid so I could not download it. Perhaps this is because the book has not officially been released yet.
July 18, 2014
This book helped me to get through rough times in my life, it also helped me to heal emotionally. I've also learn t to get over emotional scars easily. I highly recommend it because it also helped me to think creatively, it sharpened my mind. It is an easy read, which means that everybody from all walks of life can relate to it. If you want piece of mind in your life then go for it and you wont regret reading it. Everything is there but it's up to you to decide what works for you. The ideas are 100% practical only if you are willing to commit yourself in applying what you have read. The book is really profound.
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Written by Silindokuhle Mthembu
May 5, 2013
This book really helped me get through a horrible and painful break-up. Even though i read it, i didn't follow some of it. making these mistakes and re reading the book helped me see where i went so wrong and how to get over it. I didn't fix the pain it helped ease it, get closure and help with many aspects including jealousy of your ex's new lover. For a book it is really understand of how you feel. Good book, must read if you're heart broken.
September 28, 2016
الكتاب جيد من ناحية وصف المشاعر و كيفية تكوينها، هو تفسير جيد للمشاعر المصاحبة لمن انفصلوا او يعانون في علاقاتهم..
لكنه ملئ بالتكرار و الحشو.. كما انه يتبع اسلوب التنمية البشرية.
اكثر ما احبطني هو ان كل التقنيات و الحلول التي اقترحها الكاتب عبارة عن ( تخيلات نقترحها بوعي للعقل اللاواعي) مثلما تقول لنفسك انت افضل و تكررها.. شخصيا لا افضل تلك التقنيات، واشعر انها ذائفة و غير مجدية و ان نفعت فلسبب آخر تماما
لكنه ملئ بالتكرار و الحشو.. كما انه يتبع اسلوب التنمية البشرية.
اكثر ما احبطني هو ان كل التقنيات و الحلول التي اقترحها الكاتب عبارة عن ( تخيلات نقترحها بوعي للعقل اللاواعي) مثلما تقول لنفسك انت افضل و تكررها.. شخصيا لا افضل تلك التقنيات، واشعر انها ذائفة و غير مجدية و ان نفعت فلسبب آخر تماما
May 20, 2011
very helpful book. help you to understand emotional healing, change your bad habit, and become a new you !
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March 18, 2013AWESome book ! helped alot
April 5, 2017
A book about getting over loss, generally romantic loss. It comes with a hypnosis track you can listen to. For this book to work for you, it seems you will need to be in a place where you want to move on. He tells some hard truths and some people may have a hard time with that.
Does the hypnosis work, I don't know, but I use it. :)
Does the hypnosis work, I don't know, but I use it. :)
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